Oh Thinks He's Ok

jourdain2 | 22:37 Fri 07th Mar 2025 | Body & Soul

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Right, you all probably know that MrJ2 was emergency ambulanced into hospital on 16/12 last year with v. serious pneumonia (he is 91). They then messed-up a catheter so he'd to be emergency ambulanced to York to sort it out. In other words he's been pretty poorly and, at Christmas, things were touch-and-go. He's registered as 'Frail' on the scale.

I finally got him home (no care package, 'cos no carer would come out this far) a few weeks ago. I am pretty much exhausted. I organised a Lifeline call system with the L.A. so I could go out. It was free for 6 weeks.

Now it needs to start being payed for in about 10 days - he is balking! I know that £30 a month is a lot of money, doesbut he reckons he is fine and doesn't need it! Believe me, he does. He has low blood pressure as well as other things and if he stands up carelessly (which he does) he is liable to fall - which he has done.

Should I contact the Surgery and ask someone to hammer it into him that he needs a safety-line? I've explained that I wouldn't feel able to get out if he didn't have an alarm, but he says he's fine and was OK this morning wasn't he?

Yes, but he went for a nap and had the alarm!!!!!!!

Is it a general 'MEN!!' or what? Any advice to get this through to him please. He's convinced he's OK - he isn't.

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naomi24

Jourdan, you have my sympathy too. I have one of those at home - albeit not poorly and elderly like your husband - but nonetheless stubbon to the point of stupidity where health is concerned. I swear he thinks he's invincible. Blinking nincompoop! Men eh? Who'd have them?!!

albaqwerty

Talking of stubborn darlings, mine came down the stairs the quick way on Tuesday evening, he was going up at the time.

He's a little poorly, had a small stroke a few years ago and stubbornness helped him then, which was good.

He has discovered that he still doesn't bounce, this was his second time, the worst was he winded himself, scared both of us tho. Upshot is a son is coming tomorrow to rearrange the hallway at the bottom of the stairs.

Smowball

Naomi - mine is exactly the same. I don't think our doctor even knows I have a husband!! ( joke, but u know what I mean). The last few days he clearly feels off, cough8mg, sore throat, aching...... Will he even take just a paracetamol? Nah nah, I'm fine, cough cough......🙄

jourdain2

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Thank you for making me smile - and even laugh. 😀

TBH the reason he is still alive through this is that he stubbornly insisted on walking the dog nearly 2 miles every morning and evening - the medics said it was that base fitness, plus grim determination, that saw him through.

He's cangeable at the moment, sees my point etc.. then looks at cash and changes his mind!

I've asked him why he's still saving for his old age?!!!

albaqwerty

Wouldn't he be happy to be middle-aged at 92 and start practising his old age then?

Husbands, gotta love them (I thnk!)

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Rosetta

jourdain, when you complete the AA form, please remember to put down any falls, all his conditions (like sleep apnia, blood pressure etc etc) even if it is controlled by medication or not treated at the moment. Many of his conditions he will have had for longer than the qualifying 6 months so if you can say when the problems started its helpful for them decide that he qualifies, which I am sure he does. I hope I am not teaching my grandmother how to suck eggs and please don't let him say "thats all right now" which from the sound of it he may do. They need to know about the bad days and what would happen if you were not around to make sure he is safe and takes his medication etc.

I too have a stubborn OH and he drives me mad saying its ok when its not. On the plus side that, and being pretty active, is what brought him through his bout of double pneumonia and his 2 spells on ICU in the last twelve months.

Good luck with the form and look after yourself too