Why Does He Still Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

The sleepover guy I've told you about still messages me now and again even though last year I said there was no point if he didn't want to see me again. When I said about meeting again last year his response was 'I'm sorry I'm just so busy and well I gbh.  I do like ya alot your a nice person but I just don't think where on the same wave length. Like  we have a good time but I feel there's something missing'. 'I mean I want to meet again but as mates'. What do you think this is about? 

[newmodarmy]

If it's beardy guy abbey has met him- she didn't like his piercings or the chocolate stain on his trousers. Or maybe it's the policeman who wanted to stop over.

[abbeylee90]

Not the police man or guy with piercings one who I went on 2 dates with and he said he didn't think we were on same wave length. We'll I won't change my mind and just go for sex I told him I felt it was to soon to stay at his. 

[ynnafymmi]

Sounds as if he just wants to get his hands inside your panties,abbey....best way to stop him is not to wear any panties on your next date.Sorted.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you said there was no point in him messaging you if he didn't want to see you again. When he later said he wanted to meet you but only as mates, you should have stopped all contact then. Why are you still  bothering with him, do you think his feelings are going to suddenly change? 

[SparklyKid]

 losing the will to live with all this incessant garbage

[abbeylee90]

No they won't. He 34.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, why do you want to drag all your issues, many of your own making, on and on and on? Would you not rather be living life than rehashing all these things from the past? It's quite a waste! 

[calmck]

When did he last message you? 
He has said you dont have much in common.

Do you want to spend the night with him?

 

[abbeylee90]

He said we do have some in common like same TV programs but more to a relationship than stuff in common 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you know that about a relationship, you know that he wants you only as a mate- why can't you accept it and move on? You asked about this guy, several times, before. Do you not think it's time to give up on him (ie face reality)? 

[johnny.5]

Abbey you are young and pretty why don't you go onto face book join groups like Cardiff social group ( who have regular socail evenings in local venues) where you can meet like minded people in a group and socialize play game have quizzes and maybe meet a nice young handsome man (or woman) 

[naomi24]

That's a really good idea, Johnny.  I just googled 'Cardiff social groups' and tgere seems to be quite a lot going on.  How about that, abbey?

[barry1010]

Great idea, Johnny

[abbeylee90]

I've requested to join on fb 

[Neveracrossword]

Great, Abbey, anything is worth a try!

[naomi24]

It would be a good thing to move away of your usual social life which seems to revolve around pubs and booze, abbey.  You'll meet different people with different interests.

[Hazlinny]

Definitely a good idea from Johnny.  May I say how impressed I was by your post, Abbey,  written well (unlike the usual ones) and even with speech apostrophes!  You can do it if you take your time. x