Pardon my unaccustomed use of unladylike language, but - Pooey!!
Don't you think you're perhaps being a little over-dramatic here? Ruining people's lives? I don't think so. You haven't murdered anyone lately have you? You haven't dropped any atom bombs on anyone lately, have you? Of course not, so let's get this into perspective. You may have fallen out with someone, a relationship, or a friendship may have ended, but that's hardly ruining their life. They'll get over it - just as you will - we all do - so just stop this right here, Luny-tunes, otherwise it won't be one wellie heading for your High Street - it will be a pair!!
As the old song goes,
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.
Come on Fred ... Ginger's feet are tapping, so all together now ....... a-one....a-two....and .........
Err .... never was one to obey orders .... so Fish and Sea. There, I've said it!! And what are you going to do about it? Eh? Come on - get your dukes up!! (Blimey, I can be pretty scary when I try!!). :o)