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My Mum Says She Hates Me Because I Remind Her Of My Dad.
She says I'm unfeeling and I don't care about a living soul. I support her the best way I can (she's a widow), but she says I can't connect with another human being. This is true as basically I am a loner. I work and she said she doesn't know how I hold the job down! Well, I manage to hold my job down as I get on with it in my own quiet way. What's the best way to deal with this?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'd say it is not true when she says that you do not care about a living soul, since you obviously care about her and support her despite her unpleasant remarks.
It IS hurtful when people that you are trying to do your best by say nasty things. That says more about them than it does about you.
I think you either
a) ignore her comments, you know she is wrong; or
b) you can say to her "Well Mum, you may think so and you are entitled to your opinion but actually, I am very good at what I do"; or
c) you move out.
You cannot change her, you can only change the way you deal with her comments.
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