Finding Long Lost Friends

[DEN53]

I have just been contacted by an old school friend, via Facebook - we lost touch many years ago when she moved to America.

I know Facebook is not everybody's cup of tea, but it can work quite well, as long as you thin the deadwood out from time to time.

[DEN53]

rowan - not sure who my 'online friends' are exactly, but I would count you as one of them. Thank you for your kind words. xx

[redman41]

Friends are like condoms: They protect you when things get hard

[Greedyfly]

lol Red

[rowanwitch]

Trust redman to lower the tone...thank you den but I know haven't been on very long and I know some of you have developed a real closeness,

Its the problem being a strong capable woman you take on the weight of everyones troubles and when it gets too much nobody notices until you have been badly affected by it and really need some help... All you can do is take care of yourself and know all things either pass or change....

[DEN53]

Thats very true Rowan - I am a person who is quite capable and kicks ar$e until the job is done or problem is solved, but my Mum has dementia and it is completely beyond my control. Not an easy thing to watch. My poor Dad is her main carer, but I am both their carers, if you get my drift.


Red, I have'nt get found a condom that can totally protect me though - ha ha ha

[mazie]

Hi DEN, My Mum has dementia , it's such a terrible thing to lose your Mum, whilst she's still here :o( she's in a home now and she's like a little frightned girl all the time, it is awful to see. I've had a year of stress getting her into a beautiful home where she is very well looked after but it still breaks my heart everytime I visit her. xx

[redman41]

You're old when your friends compliment you on your new alligator shoes and you're barefoot.
Not you DEN as you are in good nick like that other naughty woman rowanwitch !

[rowanwitch]

Dementia is an awful thing to deal with...its like someone you love dying a little every day and being replaced by a stranger... All you can do is what you do...love and support your dad so he can carry on too.... take time for yourself even if you have to run your life with a diary and book appointments for you to do something good... And get every last bit of help and financial support you can... it may in time make all the difference in the world

[redman41]

I have every sympathy with DEN and mazie and everyone else who see their loved ones slipping away so to speak. You need to be strong in character yourselves in order to deal with these problems and it must be so hard even so.
You are to be admired for being such loyal and loving daughters !

[Greedyfly]

Here here

[DEN53]

Mazie - I sooo know where you are coming from - I cry everytime I leave their house and drive home - I think we will be going down the 'home' road very soon. We are waiting for more help from Social Services, but its getting more difficult for my Dad. They are both 81 and my Dad is quite able bodied, but its taking its toll on him.

Thank you Red - Greedyfly and Rowan. xx

[mazie]

I had a real struggle getting Mum into the home of my choice. I was very luck and had a brilliant senior social worker. We worked so long and so closely that we became firm friends. She's helped a number of my friends out with their problems, So, If I can be of any help please let me know and I'll do all I can. You do learn a few tricks on the path to getting a good care home. Chin up and good luck xxxx