Ummmm...I am sorry for your problems.
I allow that some kids have problems but I still maintain that good parenting isn't rocket science. Far too many kids today are being labeled with serious mental health problems, like ADHD, when they are just very high-spirited and allowed to be naughty. This then results in higher benefit levels for the parents. I realise that I am making generalisations but we can't possibly suddenly have 100,000's of mentally ill kids. Some kids need a firm hand and that is what appears to be lacking in these nanny programs. When the nanny has done her bit, especially Jo Frost, there has been a miraculous transformation !