I've had neutered females and castrated males, and my favourite was definitely the male, Tigger (sorry about the name - he wasn't going to be called that, but it stuck) He was a lovely deep brown tabby, very affectionate and lived a very happy life until he died at the grand old age of 17 and a half.
Now we have a little female cat, who was here when we moved into this house, who took a while to become accustomed to us (and 3 dags), but even now, 7 years on, she will come for a stroke and may climb onto your knee, but it's all very much on her terms. so I would honestly have a male, neutered to discourage any ideas of spraying. We also have a ginger and white cat who visits us from time to time, he is a young male, and very sociable. So male it is for me, every time.