the theme of this article "coming home" by marjorie waters is dealing with the grief and pain that comes with the unexpected death of a close loved one . to the narrator , this has been by far the most difficult experience in her life almost to the point that she thought she wouldnt be able to be herself again . she felt cut loose from reality , feeling only weightlessness . starting and ending the essay with "the cruelest of winters " signals the reader that something terrible had happened but the house/narrator ,nonetheless, survived through the ordeal.