I use baby oil or noxzema. Really anything with an oil base. Baby oil dissolves it well. I think the key is to hold the tissue or cloth on the eye a bit before you start wiping.
I use aqueous cream. I use it to remove all makeup off my face at night with cotton wipes and then splash water on my face. It can be used instead of soap for all washing because its got stearic acid in it. Great thing is its only �2 for a huge tub of the stuff. Get it from any chemist
boots botanics oil based one is amazing and cheap and really takes care of the delicate skin around your eyes so you dont have to really rub to get any mascara off, especially waterproof