Genuine Anxiety And Distress Over Things That Aren't Happening.

[sandyRoe]

I've looked after my sister for a few years now, at no small cost to myself. Until recently she seemed fairly happy with that situation. But just recently she'd become very distressed imagining that I've given a key to the front door of the house to a woman who's coming in and stealing her things. She's really frightened of this imaginary woman and I see now that my ability to help her has come to an end. What to do now? Her GP or a social worker?

[vakayu]

So sorry to hear of your distress sandyRoe,it is very difficult in these situations,best to seeGP first to rule out anything medical,then proceed from there,you are a very caring brother,just time to accept help so no need to reproach yourself,good luck and take care.

[pixie373]

I agree, ratter, there are many things to rule out first.
sandy, can i suggest before her appointment, you drop into the surgery and pick up a urine sample pot? If you take it back to the appointment filled (pref by her, not you;-)), it should save some further time and faffing.

[naomi24]

Ratter is right. You should get a proper diagnosis before jumping to conclusions. I'm sorry I posted my bit - except the bit about reflections which I think could be very relevant to her unfounded fears.

[sandyRoe]

Thank you all for the advice and comments. I spoke to her about the doctor and she refused. So it looks as though we're going to go on as before.
I posted the original post late last night when I was 'tired and emotional' after having consumed a bottle of 'Fat B@stard' pinot noir. It's produced by Thierry & Guy who sound as though they have missed their calling and should have been hairdressers.

[pixie373]

Sandy, are you finding this all too much? You need to look after yourself too xx. If you really can't persuade her to go to the doctor at this point, at least take in a sample for them to test x

[woofgang]

sandy in your circs, i would be talking directly to the GP and asking for a visit whether or not your sister wants it. I very rarely suggest this, but from what you have said, I think that right now your sister isn't in a state where she is competent to make that choice.
You know what they say....in vino veritas

[elliemay1]

You could perhaps speak to her doctor and explain the situation. Maybe he would arrange a home visit. Has she any friends or a good neighbour who could persuade her to see a doctor?

[Mamyalynne]

Sandy, I know you were emotional during the wee small hours you posted but others have said it all - you need to get the GP to come out.

They are well versed in this and will announce that it's a routine visit for each patient , who knows a simple infection could be the cause and cleared up soon.

Don't let it carry on , wrong for both of you.

[elliemay1]

Agree totally with Mamyalynne. Please don't leave it any longer, sandy. The situation will not improve without help.

[vakayu]

Oh dear sandy I feel for you in this predicament,if your sister has refused to go to the doctor,either try and get a home visit(which nowadays may not be easy)or make an appointment for yourself and explain the situation,as it is starting to affect your own well being which will not help either of you,time to act!!

[naomi24]

I agree with Woofgang. I would explain the situation to the doctor and ask him to call in to see her. I've done it myself in similar circumstances.