Drink problem

[dopeybint]

Since I lost my Mum I have developed a problem with drink ( half a bottle of spirits a day )
Any advice ( other than just stop it ) will be greatly appreciated. Thanks

[Petal~flower]

Yes well stop it would be the obvious answer. But its not that easy.

I am sorry to read that you lost your mum. Hitting the bottle may seem like the only way, but drinking only depresses you even more. I've been there, so talking from experience.

Have you considered having a talk with your doctor? You really dont want to have to rely on the alcohol to get you through the day. You know its not doing you any good. Please do and see your doc, tell him/her how you are feeling. There maybe some therapy you can get to help you over this difficult time.

[6758]

So sorry to hear bout your mum dopey.

My brother went through the same thing when my dad died, he just wanted to block things out and drinking was all too convenient!!!

Talking to your friends or partner might help as a problem shared is a problem halved. There are also good councillors around who can help talk you through the grieving process and make you realise that what you are going through is just a normal process. But please be warned, My bro didn't get help for a long time and we didn't realise what was going on cos he lived away from home. That was 10 years ago and he is only trying to sort out his drink problem now, with great difficulty. Try to look after yourself, time really is a healer...

[penractor]

you might want to also try a website called "Down Your Drink." It helps you to look at the problem and cut down

[GIRL RACERS]

i to lost my mum - mums are everything arnt they.

but do you think this is the way your mum would want you to be living your life.

she may not be physically here, but what if she can see whats happening to you, what if she can feel your pain - may mean she is unable to rest in peice.

do the memory of your mum proud - please get some help.

take care

xxxxx

[TIGGERLIT]

I think we can all understand onw ay or the other when answering this question.
i lost my mum 18 months ago and still feels like yesterday.
because i suffer from very bad depression any way i didnt go to the bottle as i knew i would be with her, so have been really good. but my dad did turn to the bottle for about 4 months. he still has the odd bad day where he will just stay in bed. im the oldest of 7 kids and i was 29 and the youngest was 17, we acted differently to what had happened. have you got any family or what about your dad?
the way i think i looked at it is im wasnt the first to go through this and wouldnt be the last. also when i see people that have got through it, when it happened to them before me then i think there must be hope as if they can do it then i must be able to.
i think with my dad the reason he stopped was because he sudenly felt that he was being selfish and saw he still had 7 kids around him all going through it aswell.

[WendyS]

Bereavement is really shattering and having a drink (or two, or three) does seem an easy temporarily way of blotting out the pain. But long term it doesn't help and only the passing of time will help your grief fade, so if you can try to find some other activity to to indulge in when you feel the temptation for a drink coming on I think it will help you physically. Can you experiment and try to find some non-alcohol drink you enjoy? Possibly something with a bit of fizz like tonic and orange juice, or even some kind of healthy drink like chilled tomato juice or V8 vegetable juice?
If you can imagine your mother talking to you now, what would she be saying to you about your heavy drinking. Just because you don't have her physical presence with you, try not to ignore the loving legacy she has left you. Your best way of honouring her memory is to know that she would be proud of your efforts to cope with getting on with your life without ruining it by alcohol. It IS hard, but take a day at a time and try to get some professional help if you feel it really is taking over your life to the extent when you are beginning to destroy yourself.