sleeping problem..

[mrknowledge]

this is embarassing..but i find it really hard to get to sleep unless i masturbate first. is there something wrong with me?? how can i get over it?!

[daffy654]

I don't think you are the only man in the world who does this but if it worries you buy some boxing gloves.

[beanebabe]

I am sure it is just a phase! Read a book instead.

[SRH]

Is there really anything abnormal about that? Going to sleep with a smile on your face can't be a bad thing!

[mango juice]

I am going to take a western AND eastern approach to this question.

First of all, please don't feel embarrassed at all regarding masturbation. I won't go into the details of masturbation (unless I have to) but suffice to say it is a normal thing to do. You asked two very pertinent questions there which I hope to answer:

1. Is there something wrong with me??
No. There isn't anything wrong with you. If food is nutrition for the body, then sex is nutrition for the mind. The fact that you believe something is wrong with you is perhaps due to the brainwashing you had when you were a kid, probably brainwashed by the media, by your parents, your peers, or your religion. But every single western medical literature out there has managed to prove the significance of sex in the wellbeing of humans.

The only danger here is getting addicted to masturbation that can prove to be trouble. I hope you don't have an addictive personality? :)

2. How can I get over it?
First of all you have to know whats causing your insomnia. Sleep is very elusive. The more you want it, the more it doesn't come to you. I'm sure you had one of those nights when tossing and turning in bed not being able to sleep because you're so worried about not being able to get up in the morning for work. The more you force yourself to sleep, the more afraid you become, and the more agitated you get and thus insomnia.

A good sleep requires a calm mind. I personally prefer to meditate if I couldn't sleep. You can argue that perhaps its the pillow, or the bed, or the room thats making you feel uncomfortable... but as far as I know, as long as the mind is perturbed, nothing will be good enough for you. You can be sleeping in a presidential suite and you wouldn't be able to sleep.

Calm your mind down. Remember that there is nothing wrong with not being able to sleep. People worry too much about work in the

[mango juice]

From an Eastern point of view, the Taoist physicians believe that masturbating is very detrimental to our health. By losing semen, we are essentially losing "jing", a vital essence that is needed for bodily function. That is why they found out men who could practice sex without ejaculating generally have better health and live longer than men who can't hold it in. After ejaculating, they realized men gets tired and yearns for sleep. That is because the body lost the vital essence and is thus drained. From an Eastern point of view, perhaps it isn't a good idea to masturbate too much. :)

I wouldn't suggest cutting your penis off. Otherwise you'll be left with no penis and worse, no means to put you to sleep too. That would be a major bummer... But it never hurts to learn to control yourself when it comes to this. What you are essentially doing is conditioning yourself by masturbating everytime before you sleep. If you do this long enough, soon masturbation will become such a deep rooted conditioning that it will be very hard to decondition you. If you really want to get over it, then I suggest you take some time to get to know yourself, and understand why you're having insomnia. Often with understanding alone, imsonia goes away.

Hope this helps. :)

[beanebabe]

Now for a man's perspective on this!

At your age it is quite normal to masturbate several times a day if and when you get the urge and have the energy! Hormones are to blame I believe.

Don't worry about it, once you hook up with a good woman this may well stop, as your energies will be diverted elsewhere. In the meantime, enjoy!!

As long as it's not hurting anyone else, what the hec. And be honest ladies, I bet this also applies to some of you!

From Beanebabe's boyfriend (I'm down to every other night!)