looking for some practical advise re alzhiemers disease

[ddaisy992]

my (ex) father-in-law has been told he has alziemers wich is a shock as he's still very able. My sons go too stay with him once a fortnight, I don't want too upset ther papa but think I should talk over this with him inasmuch as how is he going too cope. Anyone with experience of ths type of situation?

[pinktwink]

it depends on your sons ages as well as the stage of your dads illness before could offer suggestions,

Talks to your dads dr

[ddaisy992]

theyr coming on for 3 an 6, its my ex fathr in law, I dont want him upset, i don't think his doctor would speak with me wuld he?

[pinktwink]

yes its best if you contact him and explain the reason for your call and ask if he feels your ex father in law is safe to care for the boys overnight

[pinktwink]

ps you are right to show concern but a lot depends on the stage he is at. Is there anyone in his family you can talk to , your husband any of his other children

[ddaisy992]

i will try speaking with his doctor, thank you. I don't see much of my husband (messy seperation divorcing soon), he does see our sons when at ther papas but he doesnt spend the time with them overnight)he's an alcoholic so i don't allow them)

[Ice.Maiden]

It's a very distressing disease ddaisy, and as others've said, you need to have a word with his doctor to ascertain what stage he's in - obviously because of the children visiting. He's not going to harm them, but he could gradually forget who they are, and why they're there. I personally think that visits should be supervised at all times, and see what caring services are available in your locality.

[terambulan]

Your sons are quite young and too lively to be left with someone with alzheimers = absent minded & forgetful. Rather than put the responsibility on your papa why not either stay with the boys or have the papa over to visit, where you can supervise your boys.

If there is alcohol in the mix it's quite likely your sons may drink it.

[ddaisy992]

Thank yous for the replys, I am worried but he's such a lovely caring man . The boys dote on him but I know I need advice. I hav printed some articles from various websites so will read up, i wantd some thoughts from real people, so thanks verymuch again.

[ddaisy992]

just been told abt an hour ago that the sweetest man, ther papa died from a massive stroke an i'm on here bickering with an idiot. What am i goin too tell two boys that there precious papa has gone?