Help with hubby's depression

[sickandtired]

My hubby suffers severe depression. Currently not on any medication but is now refusing to eat or drink. How long can he carry on like this before something bad happens? I've tried pleading, crying and begging but he refuses to budge. So how long can he last without food and drink and what will happen to him?

[Ankou]

then the doctor who comes out will decide whats best.

[sickandtired]

He was asked about anti depressants but he refused them. No def not attention seeking and the doctor will be here in about 2 hours

[DTCwordfan]

fyi - sickandtired so that you are prepared. Hopefully he will see sense.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/2204983.stm

[DTCwordfan]

Good on you if you have called the Doc - they will advise accordingly and remember there is some one always here if you need to rant, rave, ask questions etc etc...(and laugh!)

Sorry to hear about the baby? How are you in yourself?

[chrissa1]

I'm so sorry for you sickandtired.

[woofgang]

Is he committing suicide? I can get not wanting to eat or drink, its the rinsing the mouth out bit that has me puzzled.

[woofgang]

I have some experience of dealing with people with various mental health problems. There is usually a logic for the sick person and they can usually explain it if asked...I just wondered what his reasoning was.

[woofgang]

oh yes, undoubtedly.

[kryptic]

Theres no rhyme nor reason with depressed people, Ive been there. (both sides)
NHS Direct might be an option. If he is attention seeking then he obviously is in need of attention. (we dont seek attention for nothing) If he's genuinely depressed, then that needs sorting as well.
Good luck.

[lylabellablueyes]

How very sad.. I wish you all the best and hope that things are better for you both soon x

[Old_Geezer]

Obviously not obliged to sickandtired, but was there an update?
Curious because I had an aunt who did much the same. Hospital insisted they had no authority to go against her wishes. Wondered how you got on.

[chrissa1]

I agree with you oldgeezer. I've been thinking about sickandtired and her husband today. I hope things are looking up.

[atalanta]

If I were you I'd leave him. At least go and stay with some relatives for a week or so, and tell him he is not the only one "suffering" - you need support too. Have you got a sister or aunt you coudl stay with so that he has to look after himself for a bit ? It sounds as if he is manipulating you. He is almost certainly drinking water when you are not looking, and he may also be eating surreptitiously. He's just enjoying pushing you around , and he may not even really be depressed. He is really enjoying your reaction and your upsets at his behaviour. Time for you to push back

[sickandtired]

Hi all,

Thanks for all the messages and the update is the doc came out and talked some sense into him. He's agreed to counselling and both of us to have bereavement counselling.

and atalanta that's just cruel he is truly depressed and not 'faking it' or doing things to hurt me

[Mamyalynne]

Oh sickandtired, I am so glad you are getting some help now, this is a terribly difficult time and will take quite some sorting out, ignore the one very unhelpful post, so many of us have been in these situations and it as real an illness as any other.

I wish you strength and patience through this journey together, take care. ♥

[sickandtired]

Thanks mamyalynne I will ignore them.

Glad he's seeing sense and agreed counselling hopefully we can start looking to the future now :)