Might I regret this?

[coccinelle]

I have late husband's wedding ring since he was cremated and have wondered about having my ring and his ring meltered to make just one ring. Will I regret this one day as 'my' wedding ring will no longer exist? but on the other hand, I wouldn't wear his ring (too masculine) and it could be a way of reuniting the two. I have thought of just having his ring adjusted so I would wear it... all ideas very welcome as I don't really know what I shoud do.

[soaps]

That sounds really nice and romantic coooinelle, and unsusal.

[bednobs]

do you have an engagement ring? personally, i wouldn't care too much about my wedding ring, but would care much more about my engagement ring. I had to have my wedding ring cut off when i was pregnant and it's just in the cupboard now. On the other hand i got my engagement ring when we had very little money and it took my husband several months to pay for it. I used to go and visit it in the shop :)

[anneasquith]

i agree ^^^ a lovely item for you to keep and im sure whatever you decide to do. it will be just right for you .

[looobylooo]

ah, what a lovely idea, coccinelle! :o)

[carmalee]

Why not wait a while as you aren't sure what to do. I think it's a lovely idea but once it's done it's done and you obviously have a concern that your wedding ring will no longer exist. I'm sure you will have lots of suggestions this evening. Whatever happens I hope it comforts you.

[jno]

yes, a very sweet idea. Your ring will still be there but merged, rather the way two people merge when they get married.

[sara3]

go to a good jeweller's and talk it over. they should be able to give you some good ideas.

[Prudie]

That is an interesting idea but be 100% sure before you do it. A lot of people wear a loved one's ring on a chain.

[coccinelle]

Thank you soaps; that's really nice of you to say that. i just hope if I do it I won't regret that I no longer have the ring he gave me but at the same time our rings are bonded....

[Jemisa]

Perhaps you could have it made into a pendant and have his name engraved on it. it would look lovely on a gold chain.

jem

[joggerjayne]

Yes, the "melt and merge" idea is lovely.

Get them independantly weighed first, or you may find that two rings, together ... produce enough gold to make one ring, the size of either one of the original rings.

(am I being a bit cynical??)

[hc4361]

As your wedding ring is precious to you, you could make a heart shaped pendant engraved with his name, or both your names, or your wedding date (or anything that is significant to you) from his.

[coccinelle]

Wow, hadn't seen so many replies at once. Yes, bednobs i do have an engagement ring so that will always be worn. I know a jeweller who can do this if I ask so waiting to see if I should ask him to do it or not. As to wearing his ring on a chain I haven't done that and don't like the idea so wearing 'our' ring would be something I could do.

[arwyn]

I'd wear hubbys ring on a chain around My neck if I was You.

[arwyn]

Sorry coccinelle I'm repeating.

[emmie]

don't meld the rings, but perhaps wear his around your neck, that way you still have the ring, and you keep your wedding band.

[boxtops]

I think I'm with coccinelle, I wouldn't want to wear it round my neck, but I might wear it on my other hand.

[coccinelle]

arwyn and em10 are you speaking from experience? that if I do lose my original ring I'll regret it? I wouldn't wear my husband's ring on a chain as that isn't how a ring should be worn; at the moment it's next to a photo which isn't right either.
joggerjayne; not quite sure what you mean...?????

[coccinelle]

boxtops: but would you have the two rings meltered together or just go for adapting your husband's ring. I know it isn't easy when you're not in the circumstances but I'd like to have different people's opinion so I don't regret this.

[hc4361]

Perhaps you could have his ring made in to some form of bracelet? The centrepiece of a bracelet.