confused

[Anonie_Mouse]

I have been married to my husband for four years and have a fantastic relationship with him - my true soul mate. I joined a new company a few months ago and have found myself attracted to one of the men here. Now please dont get me wrong i would NEVER do anything but just find it so confusing to suddenly have an attraction to someone who is not my husband. I suppose i dont have a real question, just wanted to know that other people out there get a strong attraction like this without looking for anything else. I have quite a flirty nature - this has always been the case - so im just worried that this guy will get the wrong impression. Im sure this is probably completely nothing but its so alien to me i thought id write it down!


Argh! I am well aware this probably makes no sense! :)

[Ankou]

nothing wrong with it particualrly provided it goes no further.

[Anonie_Mouse]

it absolutely wouldnt go any further, just worried me that this is the first time ive ever felt like this since getting together with my hubby.

[ummmm]

This is when love overrides attraction.

[Ankou]

its natural.

[ummmm]

Yes...it is....to a degree.

[bednobs]

it's something that scares the sheet out of me - i have been with my husband for 17 years and i would be so scared if i started feeling like this about someone else. Luckily i don't come in contact with many men!

[Anonie_Mouse]

i work with all men, and have done for many many years which is why i find it strange that this one guy, out of the hundreds that i come into contact with through work, i find myself attracted to.

[Ankou]

maybe hes a player and has just paid you the right compliments here and there. there's no formula.

[Sqad]

Methinks an affair is forthcoming.

[Anonie_Mouse]

i dont think he's a player, just a nice normal guy, not even particularly fantastic to look at that i could put the attraction down to that. Im just going to ease off on myself and hope it passes.

[Anonie_Mouse]

sqad i dont think my conscious would allow that, im one of these people you can spot a lie from a mile off!

[Sqad]

Anonie....yeah! right.

<< I joined a new company a few months ago and have found myself attracted to one of the men here>>
<< I have quite a flirty nature>>

Now my sweet...what about if he responds to your "flirty nature?" How would you react to that?

[pa___ul3]

I think it's very normal to be attracted to other people, the amount of people there are, there has to be more than one that ticks the boxes. It doesn't mean you think any less of your fella or that you have to get it on with this new chap.
It all comes down to your moral strength and respect for your hubby vs. this little flutter over a bit of new totty.
And one more thing, as the old saying goes... don't screw the crew!

[Anonie_Mouse]

sqad ive always been flirty, my husband knows this, thats just me. If he responds to this then i will have to let him know that thats just me and i don mean anythign by it. Not saying its going to be easy but i honestly cant imagine cheating on my hubby,

[Anonie_Mouse]

I like that pa___ul - dont screw the crew!

[emmie]

things like this always ends in tears, attraction, flirting, perhaps the odd drink after work, then you are heading into very dangerous territory, you may trust yourself, but if you have a flirty nature then this guy will pick up on it and respond. Suggest you don't do anything other than back off, that is if you value and love your husband, and seems you do. It may be natural to some, but i have seen this situation with friends, and it never ended well.

[DTCwordfan]

http://www.neosteel.de/Nsepmain.htm

strikes me one of these is in order - before you go to work.

[pa___ul3]

em10, to be fair, not all men are animals driven only by their todges, I've worked with plenty of girls with whom I flirted and them with me, but nothing more, and a lot of the time I was single too. It can be really good for the ego to have a mutual flirt. If anonie-mouse makes sure this line isn't crossed it doesn't have to be crossed. She may well get called a dangle-tease (you know what I mean without the swearing) but hey ho. Just as long as it's under control it's all good!
another good one is "don't bang the gang!" I've heard them all, I've worked in some pretty professionally incestuous places!

[bednobs]

lolol dt - that site sells "sports" dildoes. What The Funicular are they?

[Anonie_Mouse]

Thank you for making me laugh DT, really needed that.

I think i will speak to my husband, which i know might sound totally mad to some of you but we are so close and can tell each other anything. Ill tell him im attracted to this other guy and it startles me, i will also assure him nothing will happen.

Then come monday i'll go for a business only approach and be more guarded with the other guy.