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hey
hi i need some help in my confusing relationship
i was mates with this lad who i thought was a good friend he has a gf but would still flirt with me like mad.
i didnt mind the flirting but it did confuse me a little anyway all of a sudden he has stopped talking to me it started a couple of weeks ago when i would say hi to him at work but instead of being friendly like he always was he would be very distance
it went on like that for a week or so and i got sick and tired of it so i kind of stopped going up to him and treated the him the same way he treated me
now we have stopped talking but i still like him and i still want to be mates with him
i no he has a gf so im not going to do anything stupid and he knows that aswell
wat shall i do should i make the first move and start talking to him ( i dont no wat that will do though he still may hate me for something i dont no ive done ) or shall i ignore him in which case how do i stop thinking about him
help please thank u im 18 by the way
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.i wouldnt play tit for tat and start ignoring him back. its childish and petty. i would suggest if you miss chatting to this work mate then just ask calmly 'have i done something to upset you as we seemed to of stopped being as cool as we were'. if he is rude then you so dont need him as a mate or potential boyf do you.
he may realise u fancy him and has pulled back cos he does have a girlfiend. The main thing is that if he does have a girlfriend then you can clearly only be his mate anyway. if u are wanting to start chatting to him just as friends and you are cool with that then just be casual and chilled with him. he will soon realise your a cool person to just get on with and he is not uncomfortable with you having a crush.
definately dont ignore him as it could just be that he has alot going on in his life at the moment and just isnt feeling chatty/flirty. just be casual and say hello. if he ignores you again then say the bit of 'have i done something wrong'
thanks guys
yeah bumble i work with this guy
its a part time job that i have, i go to college and then work in the evenings.
im going to see him today at work so im going to ask if ive done something wrong like willow 74 said but if i dont like his reply and he is rude then im sorry but i cant take it all any more and im gonna give as good as i can get.
i just hope i can stop thinking about him as it gets in the way of my college work and i keep feeling that he hates me coz ive done something wrong and im so confused
ill write to ya again to tell you what he said
thanks again