Help?

[thebigchill]

this is the only section i feel this fits into, so here goes...My new girlfriend and i both stay with our parents, so we've never spent a night together totally 'alone'. I planned to book us a night in a hotel, which i know she would like, but i took one of my previous girlfriends to the same hotel for the same reasons. i feel i should be more original and that doing the same thing with my new gf as i did with my now ex gf is a bit disrespectful to my new gf. ps this is also the hotel i want to take her to because of the lovely views from the balcony. please help girls, what do you think?

[pjm007]

Does the new GF know that you took the old GF to this hotel ? If not, no worries !

[thebigchill]

she doesnt pjm007- but what do i do if she asks? i havent lied to her about anything and i dont want to start now....

[secretspirit]

It's probably safest to take her somewhere new even if you don't know for sure that the views are as good. I know if I found out my husband took me on a special night away to the same place he'd taken an ex girlfriend it would blight the experience a bit for me and I'd want to feel he'd made a fresh start and done something different. You're bound to have a great time wherever you go so I'd take the plunge and try out somewhere new.

[Britannia]

She might get suspicious when the receptionist winks at you or you know exactly what time they serve breakfast and where the dining room is!

Why don't you find another hotel with a different lovely view and share this new experience together? There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time alone with someone you love, but personally, I would want the experience to be special and not spoiled by other memories and comparisons. Choose somewhere different for your sake, not hers, and then you won't have to lie. 

Have a happy evening!

[Woodstock]

I also think you should choose somewhere totally new so that it can be a new experience for both of you and in the future you will both share the same memories.

[jno]

Woodstock's right, find a new hotel - not because using the same one would offend her (what she doesn't know won't hurt her) but because it would obviously revive memories in you that would be wildly inappropriate - which is why you asked this question, right? Shame about missing the views, but other hotels have them too.

[krissy04]

personally i would take her to some other hotel..it might bring back memories of ur old gf..and take ur mind off ur new one..i could be wrong, but thats just my opinion..instead of bringing her to a hotel, maybe look at a nice cottage on a lake or something..it might be more expensive, but im sure it would be worth it..

[buchanan]

New girlfriend, new hotel, new memories!  If you go back to the previous place, chances are you'll slip up with an off guard comment if something has changed or you mysteriously know the way somewhere. Plus, there's bound to be somewhere else if you have a good search.  Hope you have a good time.

[smudge]

Definitely take her to a different hotel/location, otherwise you may end up comparing her with your ex & that wouldn't be fair to either of you.

[CiderMonkey]

definitely do not take her to the same hotel. When i got together with my boyfriend we decided to go to a hotel for some privacy and i learned that he also took his ex to hotels every now and then. I would have been EXTREMELY peed off if he'd taken me to the same one!!

[Desdemona]

Tried and tested, you can't go wrong. I personally wouldn't be offended.

[Sasha13]

Personally, I'd be grateful to have a bloke who would take me to a hotel in the first place, for no other reason than to spend some time together!! (rather than for a birthday etc). However, I have to agree with the other posts and advise that it would be better to go to a new hotel altogether - it's too risky to go to the same one, and not many women would be understanding about their bf taking them somewhere where the ex had been!!!

[thebigchill]

Thanks peeps, think i am gonna take my gal somewhere new! Had already brought up the idea of a weekend away but due to her going to college full time and working weekends to save up for going to uni (in a different city might i add) it wasnt an option. Only got 5 more months before she goes so i want to make the most of it. Ta for the help you gorgeous people!