getting over somebody

[mcjigger]

ok, I'll explain my situation, i really like my one of my best female friends (I'm a male by the way), and she knows but doesn't want to get into a relationship, because, she see me as a friend, and has been out with friends before, and its never worked. I'm very close with her, and she really cares about me etc, which makes it even harder. i really need to get over her, but i don't know how to, and its really getting to me. does anyone have any advise, on how to get over her?

[morg_monster]

I have to say, harsh as it may sound, I think you will not get over your feelings as long as you carry on seeing her lots, talking every night, etcetera.  You need to make some kind of a break, not necessarily stop speaking to her, but doing plenty of things apart which will give you more time to meet other people.  Meeting someone lovely will certainly get your mind off her.  I'm sure if she is as good a friend as she sounds and she knows the situation, she will understand that you need to put a little distance between you.  Don't cut her off completely or anything though - she sounds like a good pal.  It is a really tough situation, so good luck! 

(Hey, who knows, if she doesn't see as much of you maybe she'll realise what she's missing!)

[mcjigger]

it's not as easy as that, unfortunately. We're on the same course, and we have to work very closely together most days.

[willow74]

Still spend time with her but take a step back from being too close.  Try and take it back to the platonic level and not think about her too much on a romantic basis. 

meeting someone else will really turn your head and get you excited about that person and not your mate.

its true what morg_monster says.... if u took a step back who knows how she would feel then. it really could show her how much she thinks of you.

[morg_monster]

oh mcjig that is tough.  I don't know what to suggest really other than trying to find ways to spend time apart. Even a little change might help.  Or start some hobby or other that she isn't involved in.. god that sounds really patronising!  Sorry! 

Are you at uni? if so it'll be the summer hols in another month or so.  That could be a really good chance to not see her and try to get over it.

[hannah333]

I think you just need to look at your life in general, and remember that what ever will be will be. You can't get away form her as you are so closly linked day to day, so don't beat yourself up about it. One of two things are going to happen. Either, you get with her down the line. Or, you will meet someone else who will put an end to you liking this girl. Neither of them are bad. It is most unlikely you won't ever meet anyone else you care about as much, or more than her. Although, there will probably be plenty of girls who you don't, and you will compare them to her, but try to stay positive. It may seem like a desperate situation now, but just enjoy having such a good friend in her, and remember you will most likely be happy with someone who you love more than anything in the end.

[jade_pie]

Get a life!!! have a ham shank! nd just go out nd enjoy ur self!

[ChrisKent]

I am in the exact same possition as you mate! her names hayley i really like her but she dont wanna start a relationship because she dont wanna ruin our relationship. and asif things cudnt get any worse she likes 1 of my close friends! i hate it!!! i cant stop thinkin about her! what shall i do?