Valentines day

[tinkerbell23]

What do you buy......

....a guy!!!! X

[ummmm]

Honestly?

Nothing :-)

I try my hardest not to join in with commercial crap. He's nice to me (mainly) all year round. He buys me little presents on a regular basis. I don't think we need a designated day to tell each other how we feel.

It's one big con.

[tinkerbell23]

I knowwww....

But! Early stages. Im being taken for dinner... Minimum and i want to get something in return? Help! X

[ummmm]

How many dates have you been on?

[tinkerbell23]

3.....but known him for years x

[MarkRae]

Three dates? So is he actually expecting a Valentine's Day gift, Tinks? Does he already refer to you as his girlfriend?

[tinkerbell23]

No mark, but hes been really good to me so far...both been busy- hes taking me for dinner and i dont want to turn up empty handed.....

Known him a good while x

[MarkRae]

In that case, I think you need to be careful not to scare him off! He might just consider you as a good mate he's known for ages and that he's taking out for dinner. Some men are like that i.e. they just enjoy the company of women.

If I were you, I'd buy him something fairly innocent like a CD or a book, but wait for him to give you a present first.

[tinkerbell23]

Its def more than friends but i appreciate the viewpoint and will bear it in mind!!

Not going OTT just dont want to keep take take taking xx

[Lie-in King]

tinks - if he's decent & right-thinking, then the pleasure of your company should be present enough for him - he'll expect no more.

However, as Mark says, a small token of your appreciation of a good evening should be received with good grace.

Whatever your decision, I hope that you both have a lovely time! :-))

[tamborine]

How about sewing him a tartan scarf with your new machine. Only half yard of tartan wool cut in half lengthways & joined in centre, to make a long scarf.

[shoota]

A Porsche, a Rolex, some beer, a quad bike, a Harley Davidson, some more beer, an X box, more beer............don't forget the beer!

[Mamyalynne]

Tinks , I agree with many of the other posts, a small token gift yes - but unless you see him as real Valentine type, then nothing more, will only confuse the issue. Have a lovely evening and relax and enjoy.


PS - A home made steak and kidney pie is what my guy is getting lol

Be happy ♥

[Sqad]

.\\\\ Minimum and i want to get something in return?\\\\

Play your cards right.....and i an sure you will ;-)

[rowanwitch]

Something humerous a little joke book... a silly keyring... but send the card anonymously in fact send two (get a friend to write it and post it) if he doesn't tell you about both be cautious

[ummmm]

That's game playing Rowan.

[sunny-dave]

@rowan - I think redman will be worried now ... ;+)

[rowanwitch]

Its cynicism..

Someone did it to me once sending me a bunch of red roses and a single rose different florists... I just put all thirteen in a vase with both cards and thanked him for the chocolates...

[NOX]

Although you're clearly more than just friends 3 peoper dates is not a lot to be giving elaborately thought out pressies on. I think Mark is right, men scare easily and although I wouldn't feel awkward if it were me recieving a gift like that, I would be slightly disconcerted at the concept, so...on that basis I'd take a bottle of wine or champagne for later or something similar that could be construed any way you wish it to be.

[Smowball]

I wouldnt buy a present if its only the 3rd date - if he is def a boyfriend then get a card, thats more than enough. If you get him a present and he hasnt bought you one then he will feel awful.

[tinkerbell23]

Thanks all!! Its hard to explain but i appreciate the comments xxx