Funerals

[coccinelle]

Whose funerals to you go to? Apart from relations, friends and close neighbours. Would you go to a friend's father's funeral even if you didn't really know him and take off time from work?

[murraymints]

If I thought my friend needed the support and with her say so then yes...otherwise no

[rockyracoon]

If it was a close friend, definitely. I think with funerals, you attend as much, if not more, for the family as you do for the deceased.

[Jonathan-Joe]

Yes, go if you think your friend would apprecciate your support. But I'm sure that they won't think badly of you if you don't. Maybe send a card / letter to show you are thinking of them.

[suzcherkin]

If it's a close friend in need of your support, yes. And I agree with rockyracoon.

You can attend the service even if your not invited, but you usually need to be invited to the wake

[EvianBaby]

Last year i went to the funeral of my ex's friends mum. The friend and i never liked each other and i only met his mum once but i went to support my boyfriend.

[roslyn251254]

I too have a friend whose father has recently died and was wondering the same thing. We would have to travel a far way though to Liverpool for the funeral.
coccinelle - your friend isn't a "Charnock" is he?

[NOX]

If a freind needed moral support and I thought that they might want me there then yes of course.

[coccinelle]

Thanks for your answers. No, roslyn my friend isn't a Charnock. This friend isn't a close friend as such and I'm not sure this funeral is just a close family affair as she only mentioned the funeral was Tuesday morning, no time or place. it won't be a church funeral as they are atheists. She's tied up with her family at the moment and might get in touch before Tuesday, we'll see....

[mrs_overall]

If there is a post funeral buffet, then yes, I would go.

Mind you, I never refuse an invitation and would go to the opening of an envelope if food was involved

[coccinelle]

Lol No, I'm sure there won't be that, the French don't go into that kind of thing.

[jaffa cake]

I would go as a show of support for my friend, at my mothers funeral it was mostly my friends.

[JonnyBoy12]

Yes, I would. I make an effort to go to as many funerals as I can even if they are only the friend of a friend. You only get one chance to pay your last respects to them and you will be answerable to them (and God) in the next life.

I have had to turn down paid work to attend funerals so I expect you all to follow my shining example.

[Purple_Popple]

Yes I would show my support for a friend in their loss...I have done before even though I'd never met his mother. Very humbling.

[smart1]

No, I wouldn't - unless my friend asked me to as a support. If that were the case, I'd take a day's leave.

[erin-x]

I don't know tbh. I really hate funerals. I know that everyone hates them but even if it is someone I don't know, I get too emotional and I find it embarrassing. That sounds quite selfish now that I think about it but I can't help my feelings.

[MartinBev58]

I spent most of my working life in London working in a large office.
I now live in the West Midlands.
The company I worked for likes to send somebody who was working for the company at the time the deceased was there.
The problem is I am being asked to go to funerals north of Birmingham and as far south as Northampton.
I am going to have to get very selective what funerals I attend in future as I will probably end up going to funerals every month or more. It will dig into my retirement time and get very expensive.

Martin

[DaisyNonna]

Is your name really Typhoid Mary?

[brenda]

I would choose not to go to any funeral, because I believe they are private and personal to the family concerned, no matter how close I had been to the deceased.
Would send a floral tribute if this was acceptable to the family, and would remember them in my thoughts on the day.

[beckersjay]

Sme people don't have a big family or many surviving friends and the family may dread having hardly anybody at the funeral service. If this is the case I would go out of my way to attend.