Long Engagements

[bellazella]

Girl i work with has been engaged for ever, why do people do this, when they have no intention of getting married in the near future?

[craft1948]

When I got engaged first time around it was to show a commitment to getting married..................and no bella it was my boyfriend's idea not mine.

[cathfromsaron]

if it ain't broke don't fix it!

so long as they are happy ...

[RATTER15]

Carakeel and myself have been engaged for about 18months, we were going to get married last year but our situation has changed, we are now embarking on a new venture and the wedding may well have to wait until we have moved and established ourselves in our new home or maybe just get the legal formalities done to get it legal and then do the fancy stuff later. We are still as committed as ever but don't see a marriage certificate as anything so important. It is what we feel between ourselves and of each other that is important not a legal certificate.

[cazzz1975]

sorry andy, I was referring to your typo, you mentioned in another thread that your misspelling was because you were tired!

[B00]

I was engaged to Mr Boo for about 5 years before we got married.

[ELVIS68]

I thought the length of engagement depended on how long it takes to train the woman! ;op

[rowanwitch]

my sister was engaged 29 years they eventually got round to it...before all the old folk popped their clogs

[daffy654]

I've been engaged to my oh for around 8 years now.

[Brinjal]

My daughter has been with her partner for years and engaged for two years. She finally got married last week. She says she only got married because she has just started a new job and there is another woman working there with exactlythesame name as her and is just too confusing so she has now changed hers .

[NOX]

I wouldn't imagine it's to 'placate' the woman at all.Tthat's a very outmoded idea of what couples are like surely? Do you really think that women want to marry and men don't therefore men might get engaged to ' placate' their girlfriend? I don't think anyone needs to play such silly games as I can't imagine that women want to marry any more than men do nowadays.
That's like the old 1960's sort of Carry On film ideas that women somehow 'own' sex and don't want to give it up and men are hell bent on trying to get them to agree at almost any price. Really old fashioned and not at all accurate I don't think.

[weecalf]

Engaged for ever sounds like tax credit helpline

[chelle7272]

lol wee calf

placate the woman? No in my case it's more the other way. I've been married and am divorced. I've been engaged to my OH for 4 years now, he wants to maryy, but of course won't organiase it, I'm not particularly keen on marrying again but want him to know I am committed to him.
And we can't afford it at the moment either. :)

[daffy654]

We always seem to have more important things to spend money on than a wedding.

[ummmm]

I've been engaged for about 3 years. He proposed of his own accord knowing marriage wasn't important to me. So certainly not to placate me. We were planning to get hitched abroad and taking a long holiday. Because of my grandparents health being unpredictable, I'm not willing to leave the country. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if something happened to them and I wasn't here. So wedding plans are on hold...

[chelle7272]

fair enough ummmm, I'm seriously considering marriage abroad, when we get around to it. Too much fuss and too many people to please otherwise!

[ummmm]

I want to get married in Montserrat. They have a 3 day festival for Paddy's day!!

[daffy654]

We are hoping to nip off to the register office with two witnesses and do it all without any fuss at all.

[chelle7272]

sounds perfect :D

[EvianBaby]

I'm engaged and probably will be for a long time. Well, as long as it takes me to find a bloke who actually wants to marry me.

[RATTER15]

daffy654, we have also considered that. I see the signing of the registry etc as just entering a legal contract. We will undertake this to keep things legal and convenient.

The important part of a marriage are the the promises made between two people, we certainly do not need any false God or legalities involved in that process, we can however make a great celebration out of that part, the part that really matters. :))