renewing wedding vows

[bednobs]

hi, am i the only one who immediately thinks there must have been marriage trouble that is now over when people renew their vows?

my husband recently asked me if i wanted to renew ours. he asked because when we went to register our daughter's death, it was the same registrar that married us (despite a gap of 10 years and a different county!) then he said wouldn't it be nice to get the same registrar to renew our vows. I however am very suspicious of why people do this - i either think 1) an affair or 2) at least some big milestone like 20 or 40 years.

So, when you hear people are renewing, what do you immediately think?

[bednobs]

having read that back, i realise it sounds like i'm suspicious of my husbands motives, but i didn't mean that!

[237SJ]

I don`t really think of anything because I can`t see the point. If someone`s made the vow once, then it still stands so why do it again? (unless as you say, they have broken them, big time)

[EcclesCake]

I really don't understand the whole business of renewing vows. I have never been able to get my head around it!

[friedgreentomato]

I renewed mine 4 years back - I had a horrible wedding nothing at all like I wanted so hubby said lets do it and have the day we wanted so we did.

I think it is a lovely idea and no I don't think at all that there is anything wrong with the marriage!

[Maydup]

I'm with you - I can't quite see a reason for it other than the couple "making up" after problems or celebrating a milestone. But if the latter, why not just have a big party?!

[Sir Alec]

2002 was the centenary of the church where my parents first got married and they were calling on couples to renew their vows en masse, so to speak. I took my camcorder and filmed the whole service.
After my Mum died in '07, the resulting video was a great reminder for my Dad to watch. It caused a few tears, but I'm very glad they did it as it was such a special occasion to film for future reference.

[Ellipsis]

> So, when you hear people are renewing, what do you immediately think?

It would depend who it was and what I knew about them. I agree it could be to make up for misdemeanours, or because of some big milestone like 25 years, or because one of them has a terminal illness! :(

If it was a couple I didn't know at all, I wouldn't assume anything at all. It could be any of the above.

[pink-kittens]

I can see why your husband asked and I think it was very thoughtful, romantic and lovely of him to ask
I didn't realise you had lost a daughter, I am so very sorry for your loss

But aside from that, I see what you mean

[shaneystar2]

Not something I've ever wanted to do .I find it all a bit slushy to be honest .
I said for better or for worse nearly forty years ago .
Times have been better ,times have been worse ,times have been good and times have been bad but we're still trucking along :)

[jno]

I can't actually remember much about my wedding. (No videos in those days... in fact I'm not sure the wheel had been invented.) But I don't think the answer is necessarily to hold another one.