I've met a guy who I should finish the relationship with

[inamuddle1]

Hello. I know the answer to this question but I dont like it or want to do it.

I met a man, 1 1/2 years ago in a nightclub, he came up to me and we swapped facebooks. We started meeting, having sex. He told me he had a child of 7 years and an ex partner. I was find with it. He lives in the same country but a different city so we see each other every 2 months or so... I've fallen for this guy! I send him 20 text messages a day. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesnt. Recently he told me that his ex partner wants something with him again and that he thinks he can really make things work this time. Obviously i was dissapointed so I told him to never call or text me again. Immediatly he replied saying he would call me the next time he was in my city. We started again, flirting and he explained that he was in a situation with his ex, who now i think is not an ex... The last thing i want to do is get in the way of a family!!!! But i love this guy. I dont think he realises my feelings for him, its been 1 1/2 years now!!! We have amazing sex, but at the end of the day, it is just a sex relationship, and i'm bound to get hurt! But i'm young. I dont mind. He wants to go to swing clubs, i've never been before and am interested... Anyway, he sent me a message saying that I was his best, his sex partner and friend in sexual adventures and to be honest it made me happy. I dont know if i want more than this, i dont think i want him as a boyfriend, but im happy to have him as a sex partner... But obviously i have some feelings for him. I send him 20 messages a day. So anyway, he has not spoke to me for 2 days, he is ignoring my messages now. I dont know what he wants. I cant sleep at night thinking about him. My friends are all sick of hearing about him, and tell me that he's a dog!!! Which im sure he is, but i like him, suppose I cant even say he's my dog... he might be someone elses dog... OMG... I'm such an idiot for getting involved with this, this man i dont want to say good bye to, but feel i need to. He gives me excitement that I lack. But then when he doesnt respond to my messages I get so sad. We have spent 4 days messaging each other constant, and now nothing. I'm confused. Is he just fed up with the messages? Is it over? I dont know what to do. I'm totally addicted to this man. Excuse the spell errors,, I was typing this fast to get everything out... it's really bothering me. Of course I cant expect someone to message me every day, why do i need so much re-assurance... he's already said we are sex partners, already said he likes me... already said he has an ex partner that wants to get back together with him,,, i feel like sending him an email telling him that while he is seeing me, his relationship with his partner will never work. I know I'm going to get some stinking messages back for writing this, I need some sense spoke to me... I dont know his family, I expect I never will.. Should i message him and tell him its over. What will give me my dignity back? I've messed up, and I seem to have messed my head up too. I really like this guy!!! Please dont be too harsh on me... I'm 30 years old and I'm just looking for fun and adventure!!! Thanks

[inamuddle1]

Ive done it. I've ended it... I sent him a message saying "I care, I care so much that I'm ending this relationship. Go be happy with your family!" I dont even feel sad. This is messed up lol

[Sqad]

ummmm

\\\\ I really like this guy!!! Please dont be too harsh on me... I'm 30 years old and I'm just looking for fun and adventure!!! Thanks\\\

Does that give you a clue?

My advice was and is still the same...." fill yer boots whilst it is still available."

[sherrardk]

Can't have been that much of a decision to make - only took you 35 minuts.

[mike11111]

You don't play Player's. You light one up and suck hard on the other end. Whether you wish to inhale is up to you.

[MarkRae]

Damn! I've got Laurie Anderson's Let X = X in my head now and can't shake it...

[inamuddle1]

OMG - he sent me a reply, saying, "I dont understand you, do you want this adventure or not!!!" this is gotta be one of the most exciting guys i have ever met in my life!!!!!!!

[sherrardk]

Strange definition of exciting.

[Sqad]

You haven't met me.....baby!

[Infomaniac]

Must have been a typo = "13 years old" not "30".

[mrs_overall]

rofl @ sqad

[Eve]

"Adventure"??? Oh dear :(

If it's making you miserable then walk away.

[inamuddle1]

I feel like a 13 year old.

[Infomaniac]

I think there are laws against that sort of thing.

[Brinjal]

Have fun but don't limit yourself to meeting someone who maybe more permanent if that is what you want.

[inamuddle1]

I told you, it's a situation... I'm not sure if im miserable or excited or confused. This guy is so sexy!!! Tattoos. Speaks a different language from me. I'm in total awe....

[sherrardk]

Must be difficult having a conversation then.

[Infomaniac]

Perhaps that's why he doesn't often reply to your messages - he has to get them translated first and it takes a long time to translate 20 messages a day.

[mrs_overall]

Tattooes? Urgh!

[inamuddle1]

he's multi lingual lol good with his tongue!!!! lol

[pastafreak]

D'ya think they converse??

Hey...if you can say you don't feel used by him( have you thought about that at all?)...and you're getting what you want-then it's your choice what you do.
But don't come running to us if you feel like a piece of pooh when it's all over.