Mixing business and pleasure..

[Tock389]

Am currently single, but am getting very friendly with a girl who I know through work. We're both getting to the stage where we could easily be more than friends..but I'm a bit reluctant. This is because we have to speak about work three or four times a week, and it would be really uncomfortable if we got together, and then split up - as we would still have to speak to each other. Am I being very pessimistic? Should I just keep things as friends, to save any long-term grief? I wouldn't want either of us to dread ringing the other's office etc.

Having said that, she is very pretty, down to earth and we get on really well.

 

Any comments please...

[fairy!]

Would you prefer to regret something you did, or something you didn't do?

[helster]

I think Go for it!! why on earth not? life's too short. yes, it may be a little awkward but at the end of the day is it worth risking something that potentially could make you really happy for a little bit of awkwardness? no,. go snog her. do it now. let us know. x

[Octavius]

Is she single too?

Does your office have any guidleines/rules on internal relationships?  Some are very funny about colleagues hob-nobbing after hours.

At the end of the day, if you are both single and up for it - why not!  It might even work out.

[Evely]

Wow. I just asked the opposite question. Like why's the guy who works with me and who I've dated for 6 months now afraid to go for it?
You kinda given me an answer.
My guy prefers not to take the risk and it hurts so much that he stopped at this point where everything was so comfortable and soooo ready to go to the next level.
I'm just as hurt now as I would have been in a few months, but at least then I would have had something to mourn. Now I'm depressed about the chance he wasted, the future he denies us (the hugs and kisses I won't get...).
Life is so short and complicated enough. Go for the girl! You'll probably have the chance of a lifetime.
Good luck!
(Eve 25, Europe)

[Tock389]

Hi- I asked the question originally

Just to clarify - she is definitely single, and she doesn't work for the same company- she is in a different office and a different firm.

[butter1]

What happens if it does work out?  You'll never know unless you try and I would hate to think of you thinking back with regret or wonder if you never tried.  So what if it doesn't work out....i'm sure that you are both older enough to work through it and be civilized... go on...go for it!  That's what I say.  Good luck.

[Octavius]

Presumably then she works for a company who are working on the same project as your company.  In my profession this could be construed as a conflict of interest (and I could be reprimanded) depending on what your respective companies are doing.  But if you are both interested, give it a go.

[dmsjps]

Loved your reply fairy! I tend to agree with most: go for it. If you never take any risks in life, it will be very boring. Besides, are you going to work for the same company for the rest of your life? Is she?

[GucciGal]

Go for it! GG x

[Louise82]

Definately go for it. If you dont you will always wonder what would have happened. As far as I can see the benefits far outweigh the negatives!

 

Good Luck x

[Evely]

Now, go for it, will you? And let us know how it feels.

[jno]

bit early to be thinking about the divorce just yet, isn't it?

[AllYourBase]

Go for it, you'll enjoy it and, IF it doesn't work out, she'll feel worse anyhow. It's great being male!

[floss85]

Dont get involved! Me and my EX got together, we're togther 6months and now have split up! At this very moment I can see him from my desk and it is really hard! Everything is awkward and no one in our office knows how to act when we're in the room togther!

[Octavius]

OK, but in my case, we worked in the same office we got together, went out for a while, moved in together and now we are getting married next year - we have since moved jobs, but it has worked for us and no regrets.  Some work, some don't, but I am happy that we both took the chance.