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So don't fit into my family
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My dad died 8 years ago and we were really close and very alike. The more years pass, the more I realise I have nothing in common with my mother or sister and I find it so hard.
Does anyne esle feel like this?
Does anyne esle feel like this?
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I never fitted in with my family.
Growing up, I realised that my dad didn't like me at all. he may have loved me, but he didn't like me, I was not the son he wanted in any way, so our relationship consisted of constant bullying, belittling, violence, and strained silences.
My mum tried to over-compensate by favouring me over my older sisters, which created resentment that lasts to this day.
My parents split when I was twenty-four, I never saw or heard from my dad and he is now dead.
I see my mum very occasionally, and ring her very occasionally, we have nothing at all to say to each other, and we pretend that i am not estranged from my sisters whom I never see or speak to.
The good thing is, I have been fiercely determined that my children would not think of me the way i think of both my parents, and thanks to that, they don't.
We are close, and I continue to affirm them as good people even though they all have children of their own - it is vital to make children feel valubale, and who can value themif not their parents?
Philip Larkin's The Be the Verse says it all - not quotable on here though!!
Growing up, I realised that my dad didn't like me at all. he may have loved me, but he didn't like me, I was not the son he wanted in any way, so our relationship consisted of constant bullying, belittling, violence, and strained silences.
My mum tried to over-compensate by favouring me over my older sisters, which created resentment that lasts to this day.
My parents split when I was twenty-four, I never saw or heard from my dad and he is now dead.
I see my mum very occasionally, and ring her very occasionally, we have nothing at all to say to each other, and we pretend that i am not estranged from my sisters whom I never see or speak to.
The good thing is, I have been fiercely determined that my children would not think of me the way i think of both my parents, and thanks to that, they don't.
We are close, and I continue to affirm them as good people even though they all have children of their own - it is vital to make children feel valubale, and who can value themif not their parents?
Philip Larkin's The Be the Verse says it all - not quotable on here though!!
I am 48 - my sister is 51 and a selfish self centered ex alcoholic. My dad was amazing and we were like peas in a pod.
I feel I can never do enough and fell out with my sister AGAIN as she didnt help mum move or do much at all after her hip operation.
Mum moved next door to me almost 2 years ago and seems to exoect me to go round every day. She has lots of friends and is quite busy. I have 4 daughters and a v busy time having just moved 2 of them and take one back to uni. I also work.
And another issue is the dreaded Christmas approachin - hate the falseness of it all grrrr
I feel I can never do enough and fell out with my sister AGAIN as she didnt help mum move or do much at all after her hip operation.
Mum moved next door to me almost 2 years ago and seems to exoect me to go round every day. She has lots of friends and is quite busy. I have 4 daughters and a v busy time having just moved 2 of them and take one back to uni. I also work.
And another issue is the dreaded Christmas approachin - hate the falseness of it all grrrr
