My dad was wrecked from cancer .He wasn't the big cuddly bear of a man I knew and loved .I was only 24 and the first time I'd seen a dead person .
And I never ever want to see another one :(
I saw my Dad in the coffin and it just didn't look anything like the man I knew and loved. So when my Mum passed I did not want to look, I just remember her the way she was , happy , intelligent and funny.
Sorry to hear/read about everyone's horrible times. I didn't go to see my gran even though everyone else did (and they then kind of wished they hadn't). But I am a coward, each to his own. Kind thoughts to all, xxx
Love to go with Eddie's plan, my wife won't even think of agreeing to that!
Petal, I feel for you, I don't know exactly how you feel [no-one can]; but we were in similar circs last year. It was [and still is] very, very hard for my wife, but every day is easier/better than the one before.
I digress, cheap as poss and if there's any spare money, it goes to my charity of choice.
Unsure I much care. Not too much weeping & waiing, but I suspect there won't be anyway. Maybe those who knew me could get together to drink to my memory maybe. Aside from that, well, as long as it's respectful: whatever.
I hope my near ones and dear ones will put my remains in a wheelchair and smuggle me onto a cross channel ferry and shovel me over the side while nobody's looking.
Like Eddie low key - back door crematorium (ideally in a pannier on the back of a Highland pony - unlikely to do a Dettori leap) or donate to the local medical school.
I did check to find out if the School of Medicine would accept me with so many bits missing and they were happy with that.
Then I have to think of what the family would be happier with. Better hurry up!
The thing is, you can plan all you like but it's ultimately not up to oneself but the folk not yet dead. I aspire to cause as little upset as possible, and so while I'd prefer to be wrapped in a duvet and planted under a sapling oak tree really it'll be down to them.
A very nice man that I used to work with chose to be buried in his own back garden. Now I did find that a bit challenging.