Age Gap relationships

[magic number]

Hiya! I am a regular Aber but using an Alias as certain people know who I really am. So anyway, I know I can get some sound advice here. I am 21 and have met a guy who is 34. Do you think that's too much of a gap? Im tend to really worry about what other people will think, especially my family and friends. Any advice please???

[admarlow]

I would not worry what everyone else thinks (I know its hard!!) and do what you feel is right. People will be happy for you, when they see that you are happy.

[ratbag66]

If you feel right about it then go for it!  I am married to a man ten years younger than me, but we don't notice the age difference.

Don't worry about what other people say, they'll probably not mention it anyway - we've never had any negativity.

[kazzee69]

I think things like that only become an issue if you let them. If you start explaining to people then they will pick up on it. If someone mentions the age gap to you then just say its not a problem for you and people will realise that if it doesn't bother you then it shouldn't bother them.

[nicola_red]

Only you can really judge this.  If you find you don't have much in common or have different interests, priorities or goals you'll be able to tell whether the age gap is to blame.  There are plenty of people in age-gap relationships where this sort of thing is never a problem, so it may not be for you either, so all I'd say is go carefully and see what happens.  And don't worry about what other people think - I am older than my bf but I don't really care what others say about it.  I know when we first got together his family had some reservations about my age but I just ignored that and they got over it soon enough. 

[Haj]

Ha, thats nothing, someone very close to me is in a relationship where there was a 31 year difference!! They have 2 lovely children and even her dad (who is a year younger than the man in question) now accepts the situation and everything is hunky dory (sp?). So, it can work, Im not saying it works in every situation, but this time it did. Her daqd hated it at first mind you and there were some unpleasant moments, but that's all in the past now!

[llindsey1]

My fiance and I have a big age gap Im 24 and hes 39. We are so happy and in love. We just had a baby together. My parents love him, all my friends love him and he gets along great with my first fiance who I have a daughter with. (I also left my daughters father for the man im with now.) Don't worry what people will think. At first I did but then you will see that if you are happy your friends and family will be happy for you and of there not then they are the ones with the problem. Even our friends in there 30's are jealous of our relationship because we are so loving and happy. I don't know what I would do without him. He gives me and my children a wonderful life.And I would hate for you to not give your self a chance a Beautiful relationship and infintie happiness because if what others may think. Good Luck!!!!!!

[pamnez]

When I met my hubby 41 years ago, he was 19 and I was coming up 24.  We are still together.  One of my Grandmas was 9 years older than her husband and a very good friend of mine is 70 this year and her hubby is only 49. They have been together 18 years. So go for it girl.  It is nobody else's business.

[OBonio]

Why worry about what other people think? This is your life to lead, so make sure you lead it the way YOU want. Living by other people's expectations will lead to a lot of stress. And you wouldn't be happy.

[SASHAGREEN]

my hubby and i are 9 years apart. i was 17 and he was 26. age is nothing but a number. now on a sick note my sis in law is 24 and her hubby is 49! that is gross!