How Big Of An Age Difference Is Too Big?

[Ann321]

am 19 and he is 34 (I know big age difference!). He comes quiet often to the cafe where I work. We joke around like, I do with many of the customers. We started flirting a couple months ago, but still very small amount and I did not think too much about it. Until the other day, as he paid for his food he handed me his number. Part of me knows there is a huge age difference and to walk away now. The other part thinks I'm very mature for my age and he seems to be a little immature... can we meet somewhere in the middle mentally? What should I think of this? I'm not looking for you to make up my mind for me, but maybe just some kind advice. Thanks!

[jakep]

I am 15yrs older than mr jake. When we met he was 24 and I was 39. We've been together 17yrs.
Friends said he would keep me young. Oops wrong way round! I made him old!
We get on tho' - have the same core values and beliefs.
You won't know unless you give it a whirl. Good luck.

[snags]

''I think your current girlfriend needs trading in for a younger model on that logic''

If we apply that 'logic' to mental rather than physical age then I think the tables are somewhat reversed ;-p

[anneasquith]

fabulous a toyboy :)

[woofgang]

I would also say go for it but think about your safety if you have only met him as a customer at your place of work. Have your first meetings in public places, let your friends know where you are going and who with yadda yadda all the boring stuff your parents would say.

[China Doll]

Excellent... I've another few years of being in my 20's then...

[sara3]

I think it's not so mature to register on a random website to ask this of a bunch of strangers.

[Sqad]

What are you looking for?

One night stand, bit of experience,excitement?.........then fine......go ahead.
A meaningful and long standing relationship?............then forget it.

[mrs_overall]

lol @ Sqad Proops

[jim360]

The only age limits that occur to me are old enough so that no-one would be technically breaking the law, but young enough so that possible future son-in-law is younger than your parents. Other than that, if it works then let it happen! There are good reasons to be aware that things may not work out but any two people can defy age or culture gaps and you could easily be those two.

[jokerofthepack77]

Although not the same gap, my Wife and I got together when she was 16 and I was 21. We're still good 15 years later. I also have a friend who is 19 years older than his Wife - although they didn't meet until she was in her 20's. If you get on well and have a lot in common then I think it's fine - give it a go and take things steadily - you wouldn't be asking on here if you weren't nearly there already anyway.

[McMouse]

Relationships are between two individuals and there are a variety of factors that lead to success or otherwise. My ex was the same age as me and eventually walked out after 20 years. My present wife is much younger and we are coming up to 30 very happy years. Who knows what the secret is.

[B00]

I don't see why you can't go for a few dates, see how it goes kinda thing. Make sure he's not married though first!

[Sqad]

BOO

\\\Make sure he's not married though first! \\\

what has that to do with it?....;-)

[B00]

Well for most normal people sqad, quite a bloody lot!

For you....bugger all :-)

[Maydup]

more than the age gap has to do with it squad.

[McMouse]

^^^^^handbags.

[Sqad]

BO...Oi! oi! Oi!.......Mother Theresa.......you told us on previous threads that you had had "affairs" whilst being married and with other married me.....................am i mistaken?

;-)

[snags]

Sqad remembers that as he's hopeful he may be in with a chance...

[tonyav]

sqad, you have made the classic error of lighting the Blue torch paper and not retiring to a safe distance lol.

[Sqad]

snags.......LOL