You can't put an old head on young shoulders unfortunately can you queenie? Our consultant at the time told me to back off and let him get on with it really, all my nagging wasn't doing any good anyway. He's 32 this month and he was about 24/25 when he left home for London.
Instead of two pen injections of mixed insulin, guys put him on three short acting immediately after meals and one long lasting in the evening. It means he has better control over what and when he eats and makes it mimic more closely a 'normal' life, snacks don't play such an important part now and he can adjust more easily the amount of insulin to match the amount of carbs at each meal.
When he was 18, just before going to Uni, he had two night time hypos needing a glucagon injection while he was having a seizure, very scary for all of us..except him as he was completely out of it. They put it down to his growth hormone production having slowed down/stopped and as a consequence the insulin being better absorbed, I wish someone had warned us in advance!!
Are you a member of diabetes uk queenie? Their magazine usually has contact details of diabetics who want contact with others, many are young like yourself, would that be useful to you?
The fact that you're now doing your best to get control of it is very positive, what's happened in the past has happened, close the door on all that. You're doing all you can to find out the way to go now, just carry on day to day doing your best. I wish you all the very best queenie :)