If someone close to you starts crying, be it a loved one, friend or work colleague, do you get embarrassed, do you make an excuse and leave, or do you get right in there with a good comforting hug ? I'm a hugger ! Can't bear people crying alone, I have to join in!
I couldn't walk away from someone who was so upset, even if I didn't know them. I'm usually not into hugging folk (other than Mr P and the kids), but I have put my arm round a total stranger who was upset in the hospital one day.
If it's someone I care for, I tend to start welling up too.
If one of my friends or loved ones cry I'll invariably cry with them, I can't help it. Unfortunately if I see someone being sick, I'll throw up as well :)
I try to get them out of it with a joke or advice or whatever is appropriate at the time. I have known people cry - adults and children - but I try and get them smiling again ASAP
Ask them if they want to chat about their problem in a private place or even outside. There, be a listener, with the odd question to clarify if it's complex.
Do not touch them in public or in private - that's a potential bag of worms these days.
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It depends entirely on the circumstances. I wouldn't leave them alone. I remember bursting into tears myself at work once - the person I was with was brilliant, she handed me a box of tissues and sat there sympathetically. I certainly wouldn't make a joke out of it, if someone's upset enough to weep.
A Friend or relative would get a hug, a cuppa or something stronger and ear. A work collegue will get ushered out the door and down to canteen for a tea and a chat, I work in an open plan office and I think if someone starts crying they need to be out as quickly as possible before they feel embarassed or the whole floors starts nosing. A stranger, dunno, I'd probably offer a tissue.
Aaaw elina, O.K. a hug if it's a relative or very close friend otherwise nope could lead to complications during these litigacious days. Ridiculous & crazy I know but touching someone without their permission can be construed as assault.
Maybe after a private chat as I said earlier, a move in grasscarp's direction of humour could be good idea as a possible temporary end-bit depends on the circs.
Dear Rocky, you would be worse than useless - doubling the problem :)
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what I don't understand re rocky's vomit.... (as it were) ... is that if it's a family member vomiting, or one of the animals, I can deal with it no problem. If it's a third party, then I'm in there with rocky . Why is that?