Called Wifey By Nurse

[Jennykenny]

Am I being over sensitive at being taken aback at being referred to as 'wifey' by a nurse when at hospital with my husband??

[Sqad]

Totally unacceptable behaviour by the nurse, but typical of the casual attitude in modern society today.

[berniecuddles]

i'd be more worried if she called you hubby!

[EcclesCake]

It would probably get my back up to start with but I'd let it go, there would be more important things on my mind if my husband was in hospital.

[Mamyalynne]

I may have been briefly taken aback but then politely given her the title I would prefer she used.

[ummmm]

I probably wouldn't have even noticed. Far more important things to find offensive.

[Jennykenny]

Eccles, yes that's why I didn't 't say anything, but still annoying. I wouldn't have addressed her as 'nursey'!

[berniecuddles]

nurse could call me what she likes as long as my other half was being well looked after

[Sqad]

Well bernie a good point providing of course that her casual attitude was not a symptom of her general casual malaise....

[emmie]

i wouldn't have liked it, and i find that addressing the person by the first name, as in come along doris, or bert quite irritating, as though they are talking to a five year old. I found this when my mother was in hospital,
as to wifey, who refers to anyone as that.

[shaneystar2]

I remember years ago when my Mum was in hospital they insisted on calling her by her first name .She was most put out and I had to ask them to address her as Mrs L.
It's a generation thing sometimes .I wouldn't care what they called me really but I do think it's overly familiar and you should be asked as to how you would like to be addressed .

[EcclesCake]

I would have Jenny.....just to see the reaction!

[Mamyalynne]

I do agree patient care is way more important and wouldn't have made a huge issue , I know when my dearest have been in Hospital, I always asked them to call me Lynne and they did.

[China Doll]

I don't think I would notice; and if I did, I can't imagine I'd care. It's not like she called you anything nasty.

[woofgang]

on the front of the nursing assessment there should be a section asking what the patient wants to be called and this should be complied with. I think that my reaction to being called wifey would depend on the person. If I felt they did it out of ignorance I would say please call me XXX, if the person was generally snotty, patronising and or inefficient, they would get a sharper response.

[Wharton]

Scotland's full of wee wifies, but you'd be risking a hospital visit if you referred to one as that to her face :-)

[Prudie]

I don't think you're being oversensitive no. At a time when people are probably feeling vulnerable and scared the patient care should include an all round approach that includes assessing the right way to pitch communication. I would never ever want to be referred to as wifey, sounds like a dumb dumpling with an apron on.

[Jennykenny]

Going off at a tangent, I have no objections to being addressed by my first name, but get rather cheesed off when a doctor introduces himself/herself as Dr Smith, and then uses my first name.

[emmie]

totally agree about that, hello my name is Dr Death, emmie how are you today. x

[Jennykenny]

Thanks to all for your comments. Just wanted to get it off my chest and feel better now.

[B00]

Agree with CD- personally the word probably wouldn't have registered as anything out of the ordinary.

I don't get why using first names are considered 'off' either. Surely it's said in an effort to make that person feel comfortable and for them to appear more friendly?