Celibacy.

[kat-kin]

Since my marriage ended 3 years ago I've been celibate by choice. I've met a few nice men but they all wanted sex after one or two dates. I'm not a dried up old crone at 65 I just don't want/need sex anymore. Any views on this please?

[gness]

It may be that you just don't want sex with the ones you have met.... perhaps the one you do will be around the corner...

But if not....that's fine.....enjoy some dates and if they are not content with that so be it.....there should be more to dating than sex......x

[pixie373]

I think it's a mistake to think everybody does. Some HRT or other medications can lower your sex drive, it could be because you've been celibate for a while, or just haven't met the right person yet. I would certainly want more than one or two dates before thinking about it. If you're happy with companionship only, that's fair enough.

[douglas9401]

It's a cliché but, be what you want to be and do (or don't) what you want to do.

[woofgang]

Its nobody's business but yours, but if you are genuinely uninterested then why do you want to date men?

[chrissa1]

I never go anywhere since I was widowed three years ago. I am a sad old bat but don't miss, sex.

[woofgang]

That came out wrong...I mean its in the nature of humanity for "dates" to lead to a physical relationship, albeit not as quickly as the men you have dated might expect. if you don't want the physical relationship then why the dates?

[chrissa1]

Companionship, woofgang?

[gness]

Woof....if you are single you don't really know how you feel about a man til you have got to know him....unless it's lust of course.

I like to go for meals and to the theatre with a man...it make a change from the girl's night out.....but I don't necessarily want sex with them...x

[silliemillie]

Wolf - Just because Kat kin enjoys the company of men doesn't mean she has to sleep with them.

[woofgang]

well yes Chrissa, I go out with friends of both genders, but I don't call them "dates"

[anneasquith]

surely you can enjoy the company of men/women without the need for a physical relationship ?

[gness]

Ahhh...I was answering your first post, Woof....☺

[ladybirder]

Are you saying you shouldn't go out with a man if you are not prepared to have sex with him at some point woofy?

[237SJ]

Some people just want companionship. I read an article about that a while ago and platonic dating websites are a growing industry, apparently.

[woofgang]

I am expressing myself really badly......
To me the word "date" implies potential romance implies the potential at least for the relationship to develop into a physical one.
If you don't want a physical relationship then that's fine, I am widowed myself and don't want another partner, I just wouldn't call the social events that I do go out to "dates"

[237SJ]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2408482/Online-dating-platonicpartners-uk-creativesdating-com-lead-new-trend-platonic-connections.html

[China Doll]

Join a dating site for people who are celibate? I'm sure they must exist.

I don't think it's unreasonable for dates to lead to a physical relationship - at a pace appropriate for all parties - after all, dates are not about going out with a friend, they are about going out with someone you see as potentially more than a friend. If I went out with one of my male friends, we would not be on a date; when I first started seeing man hostage, we were most definitely going on dates.

[China Doll]

I understood you woof :c)

[kat-kin]

I like being in the company of a man as in going for meals together,walks,to watch a film and maybe a kiss goodnight but nothing more. I always say I don't want sex but so far the men I've been out with try not to take NO for answer. I had a good sex life with my ex hubby but thesedays,just no interest.

[Prudie]

I don't think it's necessarily an age thing, I bet there are a lots of women who don't want sex after only 1 or 2 dates. Is this online dating?