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How Do I Forgive Someone Who Has Really Hurt Me And Offended Me
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Hi there I am really struggling to forgive someone who humiliated me and put me down in my own home in front of several of my friends and it is eating me up i cant sleep ive got a sore shoulder back and neck ive got indigestion and headaches and I am really depressed and tired I need to let this go for the sake of my health but how do you forgive someone when the feelings keep on coming back constantly
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Time helps. When feeling angry/hurt acknowledge the thought/feeling but do not feed the feeling by dwelling on it. Take a breath and move your thoughts to something more productive, less destructive to you. When your mind no longer feels a benefit to bringing such thoughts to the fore then you will have put all in the past and forgiven those concerned.
Ask yourself does this person really mean anything to you? You were surrounded by friends who probably don't think too favorably of someone who has the nerve to do this to you in your own home and has probably not even given this a second thought. You only have so much time on this earth. Don't waste any of it, or give the power of it, to be hurt by someone who obviously is not worth it. Feel sorry for someone who is so ignorant. Maya Angelou once said "Don't give priority to someone who considers you as an option." Wise words. In the mean time, watch cat videos. Best blues buster ever!
Unless it is someone that you really want to have a relationship with then push it aside and move on. Is it more that you are still angry about what they did than actually wanting to forgive them. Sometimes after something like that things between you will never be the same so just concentrate on your true friends and forget the snakes.
Don't worry about it Gordy- whatever this person did or said they showed themselves up a arses not you. Don't forgive them, there is no need, they showed they don't have your best interests at heart and disrespected you in your own home, so stuff 'em. Cut them out of your life if that will make you happy. If you have feelings or affection for this person then contact them, tell them there is something you need to discuss and invite them round to have it out with them, that might clear the air, or it might make it worse, but you'll be in a better position to either forgive and move on or decide they're not worth bothering with.
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