Back To Work Soon.

[tinkerbell23]

Pressures on...had 1 call one voicemail and two texts about it...

Plus a manager also txt my colleague/friend to see when i was back (!!)

Feeling the pressure!!

Ticked a few things off of my to do list i had been avoiding. Big weight off of my mind...

No question really...just a chat xx

[gailforce]

Er... There is a thirty year age gap between us, and I have said elsewhere that he is like a father to me

[gness]

Now look here, Gail!!! Thirty years in nothing...nothing at all....and I have this lovely hat I need to wear......☺

[tinkerbell23]

Hes lovely Gailforce...rli nice to meet you. Ill have to get s catchup with him when hes back!!!!! ...im wondering if that makes you a similar age to me??

Not 20.....but not quite 30?? Lol x

[gailforce]

Oh alright then - I'd better start fluttering my eye lashes at him

[gailforce]

Tinkerbell - 24

[gness]

That's more like it.....off to dust the hat now......☺

[tinkerbell23]

Aw *** you are a teeny tot younger......im not nealrly. 30 yet...im 28 soon xxx

[gailforce]

Shall I say hello to him for you, tinkerbell?

[tinkerbell23]

Yes please absolutley!!

I was thinking....i know the work have to organise things...but texting a friend is a bit intrusive if you ask me x

[Maydup]

Forgive me Tinks as its your thread, but can you say hello to Excel from me too Gail? Where the devil has he got to these days?

[tinkerbell23]

Very much forgiven maydup....always anything goes on a thread i start lol xx

[Maydup]

Don't be pressurised into getting back to work if you're not ready Tinkerbell. Its not good for them to be calling and texting. See your GP and ask about phased return.

http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2584.aspx

[Greedyfly]

If you are NHS based Tinkerbell then you need to go to occupational health after being off for more than four weeks. They will advise a phased return also. Although the GP fit note is more substantial and my choice when retuning.

Try not to feel pressured although I know it's hard. When seeing Occy Health I would mention the pressure and the texting of colleagues/friends because that sounds a little intimidating to me.

You should never return too soon because that doesn't help with HR sickness issues. One long period of sickness is better than several periods. But you have to what's best for you.

We all care about our jobs and our colleagues etc but our own health must come first.

Feel better soon, GF

[tinkerbell23]

Thank you... I really will see GP tomorrow morn and ask about that... Three in a row is overwhelming at the best of times!!!!! I havent saw anyone so far.... I know i have to go to see management which i welcome.. But no word yet x

[ladyalex]

Greedyfly has given you good advice, tinks.
Contact Occupational Health and refer yourself to negotiate a phased return to work.
Starting anyone back after sick leave on three 12 hour shifts is just plain cruel (and stupid).
If you refer yourself, the consultation with Occy Health is confidential.
Your manager texting one of your friends is not acceptable. Tell Occy Health that so it is recorded. Apart from it beimg jolly rude, there are also issues of confidentiality there. You may not have told your friend why you are off and no one else should.
Also......five weeks is not a long time with depression. Any GP knows this. See how you get on tomorrow.
Chin up!

[tinkerbell23]

Lady thank you SO much for the advice & reassurance xx

[DaisyNonna]

12 hour shifts are Victorian, inhumane and ought not to be allowed.
Not reasonable to expect someone returning to work after an illness to do them.

[boxtops]

Greedy and ladyalex have said just what I was going to say - you need the Occy health view on this. Anyone who's been on long term sick in the NHS should be referred to Occ Health anyway, to make sure they are fit to return - and if your manager hasn't seen fit to do it, you can refer yourself. As others say, if you make your own referral OH don't sent a full report to the manager (which they do if the manager makes the referral). Anyone I know who has been long term sick has nearly always had a phased return, so they don't find themselves back where they started by going in too deep, too soon.
Good luck with it, tinks - I know how it is, as do many of us on here - hold on tight, let us know how you get on.

[boxtops]

... Just noticed your "texting a friend" comment - what price employee confidentiality? That's out of order.

[tinkerbell23]

I know!! Just so happens said friend was in my house with cake and flowers for me LOL!!!!!

Thank you boxy im really trying.,..today ive been rubbish...will see doc in am xxx