Nostalgia depresses me

[simsfreq]

Hello... this is going to sound really weird... well anyway, I'm 17 and I hate it when people talk about how they wish they were young again... I want to be young and enjoy it and mess around and have great memories to look back on fondly when I'm older but I have hardly any friends and the friends I do have are mostly boring. Every now and again I almost make friends with some really cool people I can just mess around with but they either dismiss me because I am just too uncool or because they don't think they know me well enough... I hate it, and I wish I had friends I could actually talk to, I feel so much older than all my friends, in high school I felt like the youngest, everyone had experienced more than me, was more "streetwise" than me (I had quite a sheltered upbringing, almost overprotective until last year when it seemed a lot of barriers were very suddenly abandoned) or was just cooler than me without trying. I was desparately lonely and felt I had nobody to talk to, I opted to go to college instead of sixth form and since then I have had 2 boyfriends, (sort of) started drinking, tried smoking, (hated it) tried weed... I still don't think I'm a bad person or that I'm going "off the rails" because my upbringing still makes me realise I can get better than that, I just want to belong somewhere... this is sounding like a crazy rambling, you can ignore me if you like, I just want to know if anyone feels or ever has felt the same way as me, like I'm young and I want to be crazy and young and take advantage of it, enjoy iy but I feel I can't, whether this is down to the friends I have or myself... I don't know... I don't really know what I think. I don't even know what this question is that I'm asking I'm just reaching out for someone to talk to really... this is probably the wrong section as well... well sorry for wasting your time and all that if you're still reading this :)

[woofgang]

Hi sims, I have suggested that your question gets moved to body and soul because I think that you are more likely to get a response there.

[georgit79]

Hey sims- don't worry. You are feeling emotions that are totally natural for a girl of your age. I'm going to be nostalgic now (sorry!), but I remember when I was 17 (wasn't that long ago so not too difficult) and everything felt HUGE. It's a crucial time in your life- you are turning from a child into an adult and it's only natural that you will question where you belong in the world, and what your role is. Just go with the flow, do what feels right, and everything will work itself out in the end. And the hormones will calm down, eventually, too- I promise!

x

[puttycake]

You are at that difficult time betweeen childhood and adulthood - too old for one, unsure and still learning about the other.

The remedy is to just be yourself. You sound like a decent sensitive person, and you will attract others who are like you. If people dismiss you for not being 'cool' enough, you are mixing with the shallow end of the gene pool. Persevere, and you will find and build a group of people who appreciate your qualities and you will appreciate them. It can take time, but don;t give up, you will get more confidence as you go, promise!

Remember, be yourself, and give your friendship to your heart to people who deserve it, not the ones who 'seem' to be popular - they are just as, if not more than, unhappy underneath it all.

Keep in touch with us - we'll remind you of what a good person you are when you need a boost.

[spinchimp]

I agree, I yearn for the good old days when people were less nostalgic.

[simsfreq]

Thanks guys... I was feeling really down last night, feeling a lot better this morning though :)

[cat woman]

Hi simsfreq, Mmmmm us older generation do tend to get a little nostalgic, it's only because we had good and some bad time's in growing up and we look back with mixed emotions.  You have alot of growing -up to do (and  I say that kindly ) you are a young girl trying to find that niche in life, please dont try to prove or explain yourself to anyone or be part of a crowd which you'r not happy in, be yourself, if folk think you are "NOT COOL" thats their problem, there is people out there who respect your way of thinking and accept you for who you are. You are only young once, enjoy it, live your life, you will make mistakes along the way and you will learn by them, it's all part of growing.  One day you will  look back and say to yourself, ( what was all the worry about! ) and as Georgit say's the hormone's ( darn them ) will calm down.  Good luck and "BE HAPPY" xxx :-)