Not Eaten For 5 Days

[charchar23]

Hi all

I've been really stressed out lately and completely lost my appetite. I've not eaten for 5 days! I've been living on coffee and cigarettes.

I just don't feel hungry and the though of food makes me heave let alone eating it.

Question is, should I be worried?

[jennyjoan]

Nothing to add to this except I know the feeling. I have weight on so I say to myself I need to lose weight but the exceptional thing I never lose weight. Have to say I don't live on cigs and coffee but my friend does and she is fine. I do think this will pass for you so try and not worry too much. When your finally destressed your appetite will come back. Good luck.

[waterboatman]

Only you know why you are stressed. I wouldn't worry too much about the lack of appetite, when you find the answer to your problem(s) you will find your appetite will return. The cigarettes will do you no good at all however.

Are you sleeping?

[charchar23]

Thanks Jenny. I also need to lose weight (not by doing this though) but the stress is never ending so don't know when I feel like I can eat again

[charchar23]

Waterboatman I'm rarely sleeping. I can get a few hours. Only had 2 1/2 hours last night

[waterboatman]

I know that one. Don't let the lack of sleep add to your problems. The body knows how much it needs. As long as you are physically relaxing you will get by without too much sleep.

The obvious answer is to find a way to deal with whatever is worrying you.

[charchar23]

That's a hard one. It's a relationship break up. But it's break up then make up etc.

[waterboatman]

I understand. It's obviously an important relationship to you. Only you can decide if it's worth it, what caused the breakup, who is at fault etc.

[Old_Geezer]

Whilst I agree that the main issue is to deal with the source of the mental turmoil, I'm unconvinced the mind/body is always doing what is good for it and one can replace sleep with caffeine. Needs sorting. I'd suggest if it hadn't changed in, say, another 5 days, check with your GP for possible ways to alleviate your situation.

[charchar23]

Waterbotman- again it's difficult as I still don't understand our reasons for parting. He's very indecisive. One day loves me the next he hates me. I want us to be together and talk but we can only chat on his terms when HE wants to, that's what's frustrating me

[waterboatman]

Char I would recommend you ditch this bloke. He sounds like a control freak to me. I'm sure, from what you say, you think the world of him, but he isn't going to make you happy. He obviously doesn't care about your feelings.

Breaking up is never easy. But it looks to me like it is the best thing you could do, for your own sake. You will never find happiness with such a selfish man.

But it's your choice.

OG is right. But now we know the cause, the answer is there char. It's up to you.

[ummmm]

For starters knock the coffee on the head. It's a stimulant.

Like you, if I'm stressed out I lose my appetite.

Try getting nourishment through drinks, smoothies etc.

Obviously we don't know this man or the ins and outs of your relationship but you won't be able to think straight without food and sleep.

[Robinia]

When I'm worried/stressed I'm the same regarding sleep and appetite and I can't afford to lose weight.
Unless you're faint or very underweight don't worry about eating. As ummmm said, get some high calorie drinks or soups. Eat junk food if you fancy it, anything's better than nothing and it won't do you any harm for a day or two. I always fancy salmon paste butties, lol. It's probably full of rubbish.

[charchar23]

Thanks guys. Just feeling pretty lousy. Not passed out but I do feel sick and have chest pains

[Jackdaw33]

Try substitute drink meals like Complan or Ensure, available from your chemist. It's what they give people in hospital who cannot eat.

[Scarlett]

Drink lots of water instead of coffee. And please get rid of the bloke- how dare he make your life horrible like this. If he truly loved you he would not do this. You need to find someone who will cherish you and be grateful to have you in his life, not some idiot who can't make up his mind. You deserve to have a lovely time with nice people and eat healthily. Losing your appetite is normal when stressed but it's important to work out why and focus on putting that right rather than letting it go on and on, with you getting more and more unhealthy. He is currently controlling you and making you anxious and ill. Do you really want to give him that satisfaction? Be strong- dump him, go and talk through your problems with a good mate or get a counsellor.

[Hypognosis]

I'd suggest toasted cheese but, at this time of night, watch the cheese bubble and don't take your eyes off it, in case your mind wanders and it sets the smoke detector off.

Daytime, it would have to be chicken soup or anything with monosodium glutamate in the ingredients as it enhances flavour and everything else will taste bland while you are depressed.

When you say the BF is indecisive, do you mean about every aspect of life or just about the relationship with you? If he dithers about the relationship but is decisive about everything else then that is why he has to go.

[charchar23]

Thanks all. I tried to eat a small amount yesterday and today I have the worst stomach ache ever but at least I ate!!

Hypognosis- he's indecisive about a lot of things not just us.

[waterboatman]

Time you invited him to go forth and multiply char. He is no good for you. There are plenty of men out and about who know how to treat a lady properly. No man has the right to put you in this state. The sooner you get rid of him the better it will be for you.

[Hypognosis]

@charchar23

Thanks for the clarification. If you don't want spend your life being his other mother then the advice in the other replies here can't be improved upon.


In terms of symptoms you may encounter, this page has some useful information.

http://eating-disorders.org.uk/information/the-effects-of-under-eating/

Sorry about the page's subject; I'm not casting aspertions, I found it by searching for possible harmful effects. Discomfort from starting to eat properly again does get a mention.


I'm hoping that Sqad sees this thread.

[charchar23]

Thanks for the info hypognosis - managed to eat a little yesterday. Just still don't feel hungry. The stress feels like it's getting worse. I know he's a complete a**ehole but I miss him like mad. And I just want to talk to him.

He's having none of it though