Partner Has Depression & Anxiety

[serendipity2]

My partner has been suffering for about ten months and is on medication. She is much better now than before but I'm worried because she just doesn't seem to want to return any affection I give her. I love her SO much and have helped her lots during her bad times but now it's like she doesn't have feelings for me, even though she says she does. She is everything to me and I love her and fancy her totally. Sometimes I feel like I'm bursting because I can't kiss her or cuddle her anymore. She just doesn't want to. If I bring it up, she will get upset or angry.
Is this normal with her condition?
How long could it last? I don't want to ever be without her and I'm hurting inside from worry.

[Sqad]

I don't know the answer to your question and I fear that nobody on AB or elsewhere could answer in a meaningful way.

Don't assume that her mental state is the cause of her loss in sexual activity........it could be........or it may not.

You love her, she doesn't offer you physical necessities of a relationship and that is the situation. if you can live with that, then fine, but if you can't and need the sexual part of a relationship, then you must either move on or take a mistress.

[jourdain2]

I wish you continuing patience and good luck to both. You will need both. I can't give an answer about time healing - or even if it will. Best wishes.

[pixie374]

Anti-depressants can really reduce sex drive. Take it very slowly and hopefully it will come back as she feels better. Take the pressure off for a while and see xx

[maggiebee]

Having "been there" I would say that patience could be the answer. Anti depressants (as Pixie has pointed out) can reduce sex drive which, hopefully, will return given time. Wouldn't recommend "the affair" route; not a good move for either of you.

[serendipity2]

Thank you everyone. It's not sex that I'm worries about though. I have learned that sex is going to be a very long way off but she doesn't even like me hugging and kissing her, even though it's not wanting to be followed with sex. Even when I text her I Love You, she doesn't reply, and it's like I never sent it. If I hug her, she will either not put her arms around me or if so, maybe one arm. It's killing me inside.

[pixie374]

Anxiety makes you feel like you're already on the edge of raw nerves, so any extra input will be too much. How long has she been on medication for? She will need a lot of time, peace and space xx

[jourdain2]

serendipity2 - the big positive here is that she hasn't shut you out of her life.
Somewhere, she is conscious of you and your love. It can take a long time to get the dosages right for depression. I repeat that patience is essential and again I wish you good luck. :) x

[serendipity2]

Thank you everyone. I will wait as long as it takes. I don't want to be without her. She is amazing inside and out and I'm very lucky. I've never known anyone to make me the feel the way she does just holding my hand. Thank you again, I will keep being patient X

[pastafreak]

Sometimes I really want to slap sqad with a wet kipper. He just does not "get it".
Listen to the others,serendipity...patience is key. Even with anti depressants and their effects, your partners emotions are flattened. Be her rock...solid and strong,make no demands as that is pressure she does not need. Patience will win out. Good luck.