Trip Has Been Cancelled Feeling Awful

[gordiescotland1]

Hi there I was supposed to go to Manchester with my mother via Edinburgh tomorrow I told her how bad I was feeling and she began to get worried that I would get to Edinburgh and not get on the train and she wouldnt know what to do which was quite possible and she was also honest with me and told me that if I was a bag of nerves on the train she would be too. So her and dad are staying the night in Edinburgh tomorrow night and she has lost £100 for the coronation street tickets and the train tickets she was able to cancel the hotel in manchester ok. I have offered her the money but she said no. Now all this anxiety and racing thoughts have stopped but I feel majorly depressed. I am going to see my GP on Monday to find out what help is available either meds or cbt or something. Because this is not good.

[scorpiojo]

How long did you take the anti-depressants (that gave you anxiety) for, Gordie?

[gordiescotland1]

Only 2 weeks but i would rather have the side effects than live like this. If it is recommended I am willing to give it a go again.

[Baldric]

Predictable outcome, bad luck!

[SirOracle]

Couldn't they both have gone without you. ?

[rsvp]

Don't beat yourself up gordie - she's your Mum and understands - she wants whats best for you and will be pleased the anxiety is over for you. You can only do what you can do so relax. You can organise some time with Mum that doesn't stress you out later.

[scorpiojo]

Maybe try a different type next time?

[gordiescotland1]

Baldric did you think I would back out ?

[tonyav]

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Question1460250.html


Aw geordie I thought you were feeling a bit better about the trip, hopefully your GP will be able to sort something out for you. Best of luck geordie.

[Baldric]

You were just getting yourself too worked up Gordie, at best it was always going to be difficult for you and given the prevailing weather conditions, well they didn't help, wait for the New Year, and better weather and have another go. Your Mum wouldn't accept your money so save it then you can pay next time, you'll do it and enjoy it.

[eanceoil]

gordie, no matter how old or young you are, in your mother's eyes, your happiness and well being is her number one priority, she sounds great and understanding, she understood that before you even left Scotland there may be problems and cancelled the trip, your good health and well being is priceless to her, the £100 is easily replace, don't get worked up over that. You have great parents, they will enjoy themselves in Edinburgh tonight no doubt, it will be like a date night for them, while you're thinking the negative, it may be a good thing for them in the end. Everything happens for a reason, I believe you should try CBT and I would even recommend this https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome , if you're used to CBT you may find some of this mundane but you can move on and work on some of the exercise given,, it's Australian and well recommended . Like Baldric said, the weather is awful and maybe in next few months you could think about going then

[jourdain2]

gordie - your mum loves you. They could have gone along and used all the tickets, you know. My mum is dead, she can't help me, can't talk to me. Please, please try to understand that you are so LUCKY to be loved.

I do know about depression a fair bit (was married to severely depressive/bi-polar chap). I know it is useless to tell you to 'pull your socks up and think of others', but at the moment you sound to be receptive.
Repeat, repeat - your mum loves you, she is on your side. She is making
an effort for you (actually she is fighting with all her soul and all her strength and all her assets for you) you need to try to meet her efforts. (Who said life was going to be easy?) By the way I have been prescribed anti-depressants in the past so I know how it is.

Do go to see your GP, please, but something outside meds. sometimes can make a breakthrough. Can you at all try
to think outside the destructive circle you are in?
You are right, it is not good at the moment - try looking outside your circle of thought if it is possible. (I know that's unlikely - but have a go) :) x

[Mamyalynne]

Sorry to read this Gordie, but let this coming week/month/year be a new start.

Return to GP and see what else they can offer - you can win this battle.


And, yes God bless your Mum , she sounds very caring indeed.

[jennyjoan]

I am sorry too gordie - that you didn't make it but truly it is not the end of the world - while you may think you have annoyed Mum - she is a good mum and just wants you to be happy.

You can make any trip when you feel better. I have suffered anxiety all my life and it is a thing that sorta never goes away. I was prescribed anti-depressants but found they never worked for me. What helps me is to get a good night's sleep - it makes all the difference to me.

Could you get a private consultation re your problems also I am sure you could benefit with a bit of counselling - try to find out what is causing your anxiety so much. Good luck Gordie. You are a sensitive chap.

[Prudie]

I'm not surprised this happened either only because I also get bit of 'social anxiety' and can work myself into a state trying to think how to get out of events without having to tell people. Occasionally I've got out of evening do's because I've felt 'ill' and miraculously feel better once I've been left alone at home but then feel guilty for not going through with it. Not much help as I don't know the answer but you are very much not alone.