Virginity

[Autumn_Carie]

I am 17 and a virgin ,I have a boyfriend who is 18 and we have been dating for 6 months now ,he wants to have sex with me this december and I told him I want to remain a virgin for a few more years ,and he still insists on doing it,I trust him amd I am comfortable with with,what should I do?

[Cloverjo]

If you don't want to do it, then don't. He has no right to push you into it.

[Mamyalynne]

You don't want to and he insists??


Stick to what you want - not what he wants.

[marval]

If he insists, say no, he should respect your wishes.

Don't do it just to please him, if he likes you enough he will wait.

[EcclesCake]

Do what you are comfortable with, when you are comfortable.

Do not be pressurised into doing anything you don't want to do.

Both of the above comments are always used when addressing this kind of question, they are well used for good reason.

Remember; your body, your rules.

[hc4361]

Don't have sex with anyone until that is absolutely what YOU want to do.

[Chinajan]

He insists does he? Verbally or physically? He's not permitted to insist physically.

You must make up your own mind. If you decide no, tell him and then he knows where he stands. If you decide yes, make sure you're not making a decision because you've been pressured, or based on fear of the relationship breaking down.

[andy-hughes]

Can't add anything to the above.

It is your body - your choice, when you are ready, and not until.

If he threatens to break up if you don't comply, you know it is not you he cares about - it's sex - so say goodbye.

[Tilly2]

Do you really want to be his Christmas Present? Tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressurised into doing something youdon't want to do

[Autumn_Carie]

Thanks for your answers

[atalanta]

Think yourself twenty or thirty years into the future. Do you think you will be comfortable looking back and remembering that this man took your virginity ?
If you are not totally comfortable with that thought, say no. And don't do it until you really can think that thought.

[Canary42]

Tell him you'll dump him for the guy who's got a crush on you if he persists.

[waterboatman]

He's just after the trophy of your virginity. If he says he will leave if you don't, then let him go. He's not the man for you. The chances are he will ditch you once he's got his trophy. You have to live with that. Tell him no. If he doesn't respect that say goodbye.

Stick to your honest and honourable principles Carie.

[Helyg15]

Please don't, I can't urge you enough to say no and to wait as you are not ready. As the others have said, he can't insist and please don't let him pressurise you. If he's worth it he will wait, if he doesn't wait and threatens to end it with you, then you are better rid he doesn't really care about you and you'll go on to meet that someone special.

Just remember, you can never have your first time again and it needs to feel right and be special, not because you feel you have to. You'll know when It's the right time and when it's with the right person, as you won't even question it and it will feel so right and so natural.

You obviously respect your body and want it to be something special with someone who loves you, so just stay true to who you are and tell him you are not ready. Good luck

[Mamyalynne]

Glad to hear that.

[marval]

I am pleased he will wait.

[Cloverjo]

That's great, Autumn_Carie. Well done for having the talk with him about it.

[Autumn_Carie]

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[Autumn_Carie]

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