Friends With Benefits

[Scarlett]

Honest answers please. If you had an arrangement where you were having sex with someone you didn't have feelings for, and you sensed that they wanted it to be more- a relationship, or felt they were falling for you, and had expectations of you that you didn't want (for example going with her to a wedding as though a couple), would you continue the arrangement or put a halt to it? Very interested to hear views of both men and women!

[Mamyalynne]

If my original view on the arrangement had't changed along with theirs then I would end it - only fair.

[rockyracoon]

I agree with Mamy. I imagine many people start off with these intentions at the beginning of the relationship, but human nature may conspire to bring feelings into it. It's natural when you're being so intimate.

[ummmm]

I would ask was it as mates.

[woofgang]

I think I would give one warning reminder of the rules....but its not a situation I have ever been in or would want to be in. It might also be sensible to review ones own behaviour to be sure that inadvertent signals had not been given that the change would be welcomed.

[Old_Geezer]

I think the first thing you do is to check.
Then if it is so I suspect the best course of action is to end the arrangement.
But give thought first as to how you really feel, whether you are not just sticking to an agreed arrangement simply because you are nervous of one ever becoming more.

[MallyJ]

If there is a friendly relationship... and I hope that there is... then why not have a day out.... It really is not unusual for friends to go to social occasions with each other. It may well be that the person with the invitation does not have anyone to go with or that they want to stop those really boring relatives who forever ask 'why aren't you married yet'. I really would hope that this is a friends with benefits situation ... and rarely are feeling NOT involved.

[Prudie]

If it's a man and he really does just want sex and nothing more then I'd hope he had the decency to end it if he feels she is getting emotionally attached.

[bednobs]

If this is related to the question you asked before, in all honesty the relationship seems to have lasted a long time, and it wouldnt surprise me if the man felt more too