It's a very difficult thing to come to terms with having Clover (although I know there are folk out there have far worse things than I do :-)), it makes life pretty grim at times....
It's very unnerving, being any age (but I am 37), female and trying to be "girly" and feminine and having this is almost too much to deal with. Especially having an 8 week flare and having to come to work etc before I was hospitalised eventually as it all just got too much for me. I was extremely bunged up as it (food you eat) won't cross the "picket line" so to speak as it's "broken". It's a very tiring thing to have at times as this can go from not going to rushing in a heartbeat as your body almost goes into "shock".
Thankfully very understanding family and friends around me, and I can explain to anyone I know how I am at any given time which really helps when I am feeling rough with it.
Seen me be out for lunch with family, straight after barging past people in Debenhams let's say, not knowing where the loo is, flailing blindly through the crowds to find the nearest lav, and as I say getting there with literally 5 seconds to spare. It's very very distressing, and something that (to begin with) I was very shy about discussing, but now I just say to people "we've all got a colon, a tummy and a rectum", we'd be in a sorry state if we didn't!!! ;-))) got to try and laugh it off, as it's true at the end of the day, we've ALL got one!!!! I JUST SAY "my bum's broken" these days, and people can kinda laugh with me.....it cheers me up too :-))))