I Dont Know What To Do...

[pastafreak]

It was my 70th birthday 2 weeks ago. Lil pasta couldn't come down from London...other plans. I felt quite sad when told that.
Texted me on the day to wish "happy birthday".
They came down late yesterday.
No card, no pressie( not that that matters), no mention.
I feel sad and a bit at a loss...do I say something? Or stew?
They are heading back shortly.

[pixie374]

Say something... otherwise it will stay on your mind...xx

[Eleena]

Hey pasta x
Is she short on cash and too embarrassed to say anything may be?

[Tilly2]

I would just mention that you were sorry not to see her on your birthday but emphasise that it's been lovely to see them this weekend.

Don't stew, Pasta.

[Islay]

It depends Pasta, are you normally one of these mums that say don't bother I don't need anything when they ask you what you want?
If not just mention it in passing about what you got up to on your birthday and see what the reaction is

[pastafreak]

Short on cash?...noooo. Very well paid.

[Mamyalynne]

Normally I'd advise saying nothing, but this is hurting you - try 'It's been lovely having you here, even though it wasn't on my birthday'.

That may elicit some response.

♥

[Buenchico]

Say something like "I was so sorry that you couldn't make it for my big day but it was my fault for not mentioning it earlier, I suppose, before you'd made other plans". Then you're making your point but in a conciliatory sort of way (so that you don't part on bad terms).

[corylus]

We're all with you mate, happy belate birthday.

[Eleena]

I'd be hurt too, but wouldn't say anything.

[anneasquith]

Pasta, I would care not about a gift, a card costs very little, you feel disappointed in your daughter and quite right , You should definitely tell her you are disappointed she seems to have forgotten you birthday .

[corylus]

Sorry meant belated!

[Eleena]

Might she have sent a card and it just didn't arrive possibly pasta?

[Sqad]

This is the problem when you have kept the umbilical cord attached all your life, some do, some don't, but by the posts we have seen over the years........you do.
She has her life, she texted you to say happy birthday....that is certainly sufficient in my opinion.
You say nothing.......you stew....tomorrow is another day.

[Samuraisan]

There is something deeper going on here. Seems like you need a heart to heart with your daughter. How do you get on with her partner ?

[Mamyalynne]

I think it's the 'no mention' rather than anything material - even enquiring what you did on the day for example would be nice.

[anneasquith]

Sqad, if pasta were not her mother I might agree with you .

[woofgang]

Well here's what I'd do but yes there is an element of revenge......on her birthday (or at christmas) send her a text and nothing else.....

[Sqad]

Oh! my God ^^^^^^^

[Hopkirk]

You were remembered on your birthday, albeit only with a text.

They also visited shortly afterwards, which is a lot more than a card stuck in a postbox.

I would take that as a sign of love and move on.

It may not be what you would have done, but some families would not have visited either.

[Sqad]

The "OMG" was to woofy's post.