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Elderly Father In Hospital.
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My 92 year old Dad has been in hospital for 2 weeks. Unfortunately, he’s completely lost the plot, hasn’t got a clue about anything, and now talks utter drivel. (Yesterday, he’d been to The Isle of Wight the night before, and my sister has just had a baby).
None of the staff are talking to me. (I’m his only visitor). Every time I go, I ask if someone could find the time to have a proper conversation with me at some point, but so far the only people I’ve spoken to are a doctor I’ve managed to pin down for a couple of minutes, and he just asked me questions which he could have found the answers to if he’d bothered to read Dad’s notes, and a nurse yesterday who said they are still trying to find the cause of his ‘confusion’ and waiting to see if he has a UTI and are giving antibiotics.
I said that if antibiotics were going to work, surely there would have been some improvement by now.
No answer!
He has been on 3 different wards since being admitted, and was going to have a Lumbar Puncture, but this was cancelled.
My question is: How do I get someone to talk to me? I don’t expect staff to drop everything just because I’m there, but it just seems like they don’t know what to with him/about him, and some decisions need to be made.
Thanks.
None of the staff are talking to me. (I’m his only visitor). Every time I go, I ask if someone could find the time to have a proper conversation with me at some point, but so far the only people I’ve spoken to are a doctor I’ve managed to pin down for a couple of minutes, and he just asked me questions which he could have found the answers to if he’d bothered to read Dad’s notes, and a nurse yesterday who said they are still trying to find the cause of his ‘confusion’ and waiting to see if he has a UTI and are giving antibiotics.
I said that if antibiotics were going to work, surely there would have been some improvement by now.
No answer!
He has been on 3 different wards since being admitted, and was going to have a Lumbar Puncture, but this was cancelled.
My question is: How do I get someone to talk to me? I don’t expect staff to drop everything just because I’m there, but it just seems like they don’t know what to with him/about him, and some decisions need to be made.
Thanks.
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Goodness, Ratter....this isn't like you.....to be so sharp with someone who tells us he is the only person visiting so I guess the only person trying to get help and the best treatment he can for his father and you keep knocking him????
You're usually much more considerate.....
When folk ask me about my mum I'll say.....absolutely doolally now and when she speaks it's gibberish.....I could couch it more delicately....but it's just the same....I don't do it with disrespect.......and as Big says.....it's how my mother would describe it.....x
You're usually much more considerate.....
When folk ask me about my mum I'll say.....absolutely doolally now and when she speaks it's gibberish.....I could couch it more delicately....but it's just the same....I don't do it with disrespect.......and as Big says.....it's how my mother would describe it.....x
To be fair, ratter had a valid point. I think he is still in Homecare- and a huge proportion of that includes protecting people from well-meaning relatives. You would be surprised what people think is fine because it's "their" relative. I would be more concerned if someone working with elderly people was not prepared to defend them.
Pixie......my mother says words.......they make no sense ..... there is no order to her words.....they are the few words she can pluck out of the air......drivel is a fair description.....
But please don't tell me I haven't spent the last seven or more years listening properly to her.....talking to her and encouraging her......
But please don't tell me I haven't spent the last seven or more years listening properly to her.....talking to her and encouraging her......
