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A programme on the above - you know - man wants to become woman and woman wants to become man. These people are married - some of them have stuck by their side to their partners - would you.
Me - I find it so sad
Me - I find it so sad
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My mum was married to my step father quite a few years ago; when he dropped the bomb shell that he wanted to become a woman.
My step father didn't want the relationship to end; so my mother had a good long think abut it. Her reply, "I've got 2 sisters, I don't want another one". She also expressed that she'd be uncomfortable walking hand in hand down the street .... so that was the end of the marriage :(
Several years on and everybody is still good friends and she (my ex step father) went ahead with the full gender reassignment.
My step father didn't want the relationship to end; so my mother had a good long think abut it. Her reply, "I've got 2 sisters, I don't want another one". She also expressed that she'd be uncomfortable walking hand in hand down the street .... so that was the end of the marriage :(
Several years on and everybody is still good friends and she (my ex step father) went ahead with the full gender reassignment.
It's one of those don't judge until you have walked in their shoes things. I believe you love a person regardless of their gender and if one of my husbands had done this then it would be difficult, but unless they found a man who wanted them after the change we would have worked something out I am sure. People get too caught up in the anatomy of other people and miss out on a whole range of loving relationships
If gender problems were entertained by my wife/partner /whatever goes today, then my relationship, as i need it, would disappear and so would I.
I agree, sex is not the bee all and end all of a relationship, but it is bloody important (to me anyway) and i could seriously have sex with someone clothed in the opposite gender to his/her sex.
Yes.....it happens, but not for sqad.
I agree, sex is not the bee all and end all of a relationship, but it is bloody important (to me anyway) and i could seriously have sex with someone clothed in the opposite gender to his/her sex.
Yes.....it happens, but not for sqad.
I guess I am just flexible, but I understand why others have difficulty with the concept.. I suppose it comes down to what love is, rather than sexual identity if you have the two things firmly enmeshed in your thought processes it would be hard to adjust. Squad, would your relationship survive if Mrs Sqad was no longer able to continue that aspect of the relationship? I bet it would because it's obvious how you feel about her from the way you have posted over the years.
Rowan
"Squad, would your relationship survive if Mrs Sqad was no longer able to continue that aspect of the relationship? "
It is easier for the man to accept the female partner dressing up as a man, as women often do wear trousers etc, so that wouldn't be too much of a big deal. If she was not interested in sex , as we know it, then it would depend upon other factors coming into play. if it was early in the marriage then i would want out, if it was late in an otherwise satisfactory marriage then i would see it out.
Now, as probably is the situation in the majority of marriages, if she had the attributes of MY idea of a wife..presentable, attractive, smells good, dresses well, elegant , good conversationalist and a good cook.......BUT...was not interested in physical sex, then i would keep the relationship going and buy my sex OR have an affair. The french and the Greeks have it right in my opinion, they have a woman they could live with for the reasons given above and another woman (mistress) to supply the sex. That ia accepted in those countries as in the Arab countries.
Now if one has the woman that provides ALL your requirements, then you have it made.........
Massage parlours, prostitution, brothels,escort agencies and dating site are all flourishing industries, because of the need of men in sexless marriages.
"Squad, would your relationship survive if Mrs Sqad was no longer able to continue that aspect of the relationship? "
It is easier for the man to accept the female partner dressing up as a man, as women often do wear trousers etc, so that wouldn't be too much of a big deal. If she was not interested in sex , as we know it, then it would depend upon other factors coming into play. if it was early in the marriage then i would want out, if it was late in an otherwise satisfactory marriage then i would see it out.
Now, as probably is the situation in the majority of marriages, if she had the attributes of MY idea of a wife..presentable, attractive, smells good, dresses well, elegant , good conversationalist and a good cook.......BUT...was not interested in physical sex, then i would keep the relationship going and buy my sex OR have an affair. The french and the Greeks have it right in my opinion, they have a woman they could live with for the reasons given above and another woman (mistress) to supply the sex. That ia accepted in those countries as in the Arab countries.
Now if one has the woman that provides ALL your requirements, then you have it made.........
Massage parlours, prostitution, brothels,escort agencies and dating site are all flourishing industries, because of the need of men in sexless marriages.
Is it my imagination or is answerbank improving again,
I have maintained long and otherwise happy relationships without sex, I have had some very unhappy ones with it, I had a first marriage where being faithful didn't seem an option because of what I later found out, I could have a straight relationship with a female to make, a lesbian relationship with a male to female, or all other adult options in between. So long as I at least liked and respected them. Or fancied them which is a completely different thing.
I have maintained long and otherwise happy relationships without sex, I have had some very unhappy ones with it, I had a first marriage where being faithful didn't seem an option because of what I later found out, I could have a straight relationship with a female to make, a lesbian relationship with a male to female, or all other adult options in between. So long as I at least liked and respected them. Or fancied them which is a completely different thing.
rowan....I understand that, but i prefer the wife+mistress concept if needed.
my admiration and surprise was when Baldic announced that Tashi was living and in a relationship with Mr and Mrs Baldric. That to me is a very adult, mature understanding relationship by all three participants which i admire.
my admiration and surprise was when Baldic announced that Tashi was living and in a relationship with Mr and Mrs Baldric. That to me is a very adult, mature understanding relationship by all three participants which i admire.
