Lost

[eash]

I feel a bit lost in life how do i know what direction to go to make me feel content in life? Every direction i've taken so far seems to be a dead end..

[jacko50]

The first question is are you in a relationship or not? how old are you? there is a lot of pressure put on younger people by the media they try to make you feel that you are missing out on life ,it just is not true ,slow down ask yourself what you want and what you have got. if you are quite happy with your lot then go with that the older you get the better it is what seems really important now will make you laugh later in life if you are fit and well and have enough money to survive what more do you want ?you may think that other people are better off than you but if you could get inside there head you would see that they are no better off than you ,it is all an ilusion as time passes you will see that nothing matters it is just a matter of getting through it .when i was twenty i thought i was a twonk and everyone was bettewr than me it is just insecurity i am now 55 and i know that we are all the same everyone has doubts about themselves but that does not help at all .know this you are your own best friend do not listen to anyone who puts you down they are not your friends so ignore them ,be kind when you can be helpful and understanding take good advice and try to give good advice and before you know it you will wonder what you were worrying about.

[bracknell]

I cared for my elderly mother and a year after she died I felt completely useless I had learnt all these skills and I felt as if my world had fallen apart and did not know what to do. This is when I saw an advert in my local paper for volunteers and I loved working twice a month being an escort for elderly people to go to their club making them laugh, helping them on and off the bus. Made me feel whole again and if I was worth something. Sad to say I have moved on in my life and do not volunteer at the moment, but who knows

[WendyS]

Would it help to think about dividing your life into compartments such as work, home, leisure, relationships? Tackle the causes of discontent in each of them separately and every week try to take some small steps in each section of your life to bring in some new interest or responsibility which will help stimulate you. Life can never be lived on a "high" all the time. All of us drift a little at points in our lives and have low periods.. The secret is to arrive at a situation where you can be content within yourself and then you won't feel so "let down" with yourself all the time.