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Feeling Hopeless Tonight
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My hospital tests were not good news, my Myeloma is back with a vengeance and I will have to have chemo in the next few weeks or so.
I could cope with this, I've done it before, but with my current domestic situation I'm just feeling like everything is hopeless.
As many of you know, I am now caring for my Mum who's almost 82. But theres nothing wrong with her now! She had that fall in December but wil now not let me leave the house without her, she point blank refuses to be left alone.
How am I going to get my treatment? They are estimating 3-4 days a week. I really don't think want her coming with me as she's very difficult and rude, I just let it go over my head as I'm used to her but I'm not having her embarrass me at the hospital.
I can't get anyone to sit sit with her for 3-4 days as she's alienated most of the family with her difficulty ways and rudeness, I'm in despair!
I could cope with this, I've done it before, but with my current domestic situation I'm just feeling like everything is hopeless.
As many of you know, I am now caring for my Mum who's almost 82. But theres nothing wrong with her now! She had that fall in December but wil now not let me leave the house without her, she point blank refuses to be left alone.
How am I going to get my treatment? They are estimating 3-4 days a week. I really don't think want her coming with me as she's very difficult and rude, I just let it go over my head as I'm used to her but I'm not having her embarrass me at the hospital.
I can't get anyone to sit sit with her for 3-4 days as she's alienated most of the family with her difficulty ways and rudeness, I'm in despair!
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'd just like to add that all the people who posted nasty or unpleasant things on kvalidir's earlier 'how do you see AB' thread should be made to read this thread. It's a wonderful example of what AB can and does do by way of offering a friendly ear and encouragement when people are in distress, and a lifeline for those who have nowhere else to turn
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All of the above, plus, seek out the local Befriending service. Sounds like Mum has some mental health issues and might benefit from some new company. A friend of her own who she can chat to and moan with, and who can be with her on treatment days. It worked for my Gt Aunt who wouldnt be left alone until her befriender became her new best friend and she wanted her all to herself for a few hours.
Millie you don't need this at such a time. I don't know where you are, but there are organisations that could perhaps help. If you're not too far from me I could, Do you have a local Lions club? They have a Lioness's club that could help. There are other organisations, your local library will be able to help.
dearest Millie ..you simply have to put yourself first..your mother is being extremely selfish and curmudgeonly... perhaps her own mental health is not helping ..but this is very unfair on you... I would visit your GP and explain the difficulties you are having..they can fast track any care packages available to provide you with help for your mother via social services and any other agencies local to you... also any help for you to deal with this latest round of treatment.. I have been through a bit of this myself and take it from me, you will get no thanks for doing your best and struggling through to the detriment of your own well being... now it is time to think of yourself and let others deal with the other stuff..you owe it to yourself, do not feel guilty or bad for doing so....wish I lived nearby to offer some practical help...always good to kick and scream on here when the tough gets going..it does help... thinking of you at this most difficult time xx
Millie....it must feel awful so use AB to get all your frustrations out. You shouldn't be coping with this alone xx
My granddad was very rude and aggressive but it didn't stop any of us looking after him. Once you accept them for the way they are they can become quite amusing.
You aren't well....rely on your family. If you have to guilt trip them....do it. You can't go through Chemo without help.
My granddad was very rude and aggressive but it didn't stop any of us looking after him. Once you accept them for the way they are they can become quite amusing.
You aren't well....rely on your family. If you have to guilt trip them....do it. You can't go through Chemo without help.