just the registrar, I think. But what's the problem exactly? If you're going to marry him why not tell him you've changed your name? It's not required legally or morally, why wouldn't you?
Legally no, but I still think you should tell him - TRUST is the basis for a sound relationship - I'm sure he'll reailise this "come clean" is an assurance of your commitment now that you've decided to 'tie the knot'. If he backs off because of it, then he wasn't worth it in the first place.
Thanks all for the replies. It's not so much as not wanting to tell him. My parents and long time friends all know and have accepted and been calling me my new name for 5 years now. My driving licence and passport are in the new Name, pay slips, bills etc. The only thing that remains of the old name is my birth certificate. It was changed for quite important reasons due to an abusive ex partner.
I just feel that it would present alot of questions if I were to tell him now.
I am me, legally my name now is my name it's who I am and who I've been since he met me.
///I just feel that it would present a lot of questions if I were to tell him now. ///
I understand your trepidation, however so will he surely. And doesn't he deserve answers to those questions. I know some people do manage to conceal such secrets throughout their lives, so it's up to you in the end.
/// I am me, legally my name now is my name it's who I am and who I've been since he met me. ///
I think you should tell him. If he every found out, and it does happen, what then? He wouldn't be able to trust you. If It was me I would want to know, so that if any mischief maker in the future told me I would be able to say 'I know!'
Most troubling that you do not include him in “friends and family”
You must tell him. He will ask questions, you should answer them. Then hopefully move into a good marriage with a solid base and no secrets.
I changed my surname by deed poll and it's on my marriage certificate as D******l formerly J********n. So unless the rules have changed, he
will find out.