Tell Me The Best Way Of Forgetting Someone You Love And Move On

[Pixiegirl]

You know there are times when we need to be away from the people we love in order to save them from further danger or issues , but it always ends up only being me who gets to understand this and the next person is like i cant do that cause living without you would be like dying . I know the other person might get hurt and wouldnt forgrt it if his feelings are real but at that moment you even dont want to lose him but the best way you can find to keep them save is to let the get away from you , it might hurt but you have to do it . So i just wanna ask how can i convince the other person that its for his own good not for my self ??

[woofgang]

You can't. All you can do is cut the connection completely.

[Old_Geezer]

You could point out that when they've had more life experience they will realise acceptance and not trying to change that which one has no power to change minimises the hurt. But ultimately you need to stay away and let them cope however they can. It's a character building life lesson which leaves one wiser and eventually more robust to life's knocks.

[Calicogirl]

What is he / she in danger from? If they can't see the danger it might be that you are underestimating them or that along with being upset they also feel patronised. Unless you're married to a Mafia Don, in danger of an honour killing etc etc I think you might want to re-examine things and see if what you're trying to save them from is in fact all that bad.

[Mozz71]

You cant always forget. You just kind of live with the pain and learn to ignore it.

[Pixiegirl]

Its not that they kind of a danger from a mafia but some sort of it . U can say being with me might destroy their life at one point of life and i know neither i can nor the other person can live without me , i once tried to do it but they ended up in hospital . So that is the reason i wanted to know how get them far from me because i know they love me and the other person will figt anything for me cause he once did so that is not the issue , the issue is i dont want them to destroy their life because of . It is easy to leave and go but i know we both gonna die someday very soon if we did this to ourselves.

[woofgang]

so are there two or three of you in this situation?

[Canary42]

/// i know they love me ///

Unrequited love is very common, we all have to learn to live with it.

[Pixiegirl]

Okay , let me make it more clear . Its me and my love im talking about . Right now everything is running smoothly but i know very soon there would be a time when a huge chaos would be caused and in result i know my family is gonna destroy his life and career , this is the reason im just trying to keep him as far from me as possible , i tried getting away from him saying i have someone else but he said he believed me then i tried getting away from him by giving him the right reason but he says he will fight everything and is ready to be with me any circumstances and i know that he will be cause once more he has done this for me but i just dont want him to be danger or problem because of me but he is like he will do everything i say but he wont do this ever . It is true i know but only i know that the next time this is going to happen it is going to be the worst one .

[1ozzy]

//i know my family is gonna destroy his life and career//

You're not Princes Diana, move along.

[waterboatman]

Is there someone else involved in this relationship?

[Pixiegirl]

Yeah i know that im no princess diana but my family is a bit of that type so i know it is not gonna be easy for me nor for him , no one else is envovled in this relationship cause i tried my best to keep it just to us . I just want to know one thing . What should i do leave him because of the danger or move along with him facing all the problems together.

[waterboatman]

You are the only one that knows all the facts, so you are the only one that can make that decision.
From what you say, the only way is to cut all contact. Not easy, but it's your decision.

[TonyV]

Pixie if there have been threats of physical violence I would get police involved.

[Pixiegirl]

Yeah i know i can get the police invovled but in my case the police cant do anything because you can say that overall my family controls them . I know that getting away is gonna be hard infact it even would be impossible but trust me i even tried it and for the past 1 month i tried my best to disconnect myself from him and ignore him at all but when after a month i met him he was in a condition to bad to explain , im telling you the truth . So i just wanna keep him safe . I know it is totally my decision but i just wanted a second opinion cause i just wanted to get the best for him .

[Bobbisox1]

Pixie is this a cultural 'thing' ? As in his parents/yours, don't want a mix of your perspective cultures?

[Pixiegirl]

No it is not only that our parents dont wanna mix , btw his parents are quite cool about our relationship and have accepted it completely the problem is only with my parents and nextly i truly am confused about my next step that is why i was here questioning about it

[Zacs-Master]

(I think someone’s doing Romeo and Juliet for their English Lit)

[spathiphyllum]

"living without you would be like dying"

Childish mentality. Best dealt with by separation so they realise that in reality they can live without you.

Sometimes you need to be selfish and know you're doing the right thing even if others can't see that.

[Pixiegirl]

Got it . Thank you guys now i know what is best for me , thankyou for making me believe in what i want and how to deal with it .

[elliemay1]

//...in my case the police cant do anything because you can say that overall my family controls them . //
Would you like to explain how?