Sorry to bother you all

[Drisgirl]

Its such a happy time for everyone.

My daughter who is 16 has been wayward for 4 yrs.She because of stuff is on the homeless list.She has never been homeless.(Fix by the Social Workers cos they want her off the books).She has been desperate for her own house (furnished totally by same Social Workers) but it wasnt quick enough for her.Boy can they work it - give mum a pounding and run away in the early hours so mum has to phone the police thereby Social Work are involved.She gets the keys to her house tomorrow.4 days.I have 40 black bags ready for her.I am devastated.I wouldnt have known a Social Worker had I tripped over them.She is moving into a block heaving with grown up junkies

In the meantime my husband is having the time of his life celebrating Christmas when he doesnt even buy cards or give a toss.

They have both wished me dead - daughter -cos she hates me and husband cos he was so drunk he cant remember.

I have the option to do a runner cos he is not back until wednesday - my house.

What would you do?Truth please as I am almost on my knees with the hurt..

[Drisgirl]

Sorry it was so long - it was almost cathartic and I cant sleep anyway.

[Drisgirl]

I am at my wits end - can someone tell me where I can get help please - someone must be up - I am so desperately needing someone.

[Rubyrose]

Hun I don't know of how much help I can be but you are welcome to email me.

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[Gill 05]

Drisgirl, tomorrow, take yourself along to your local women's aid. There they will be able to offer you, shelter, counselling,support,legal advise to what your options are,and just someone to talk to. They can interact with social services on your behalf, with benefits agencies etc too. Women's Aid is not just for physical abused women, but also sexually and mentally abused women. It is a wonderful service, and I believe they will be able to help you see light at the end of this dark tunnel.

Im sorry I can't be much more help to you, but my thoughts will be with you. Please come back and let me know how you get on and take care of yourself.

Gill xxxx

[Gill 05]

Sorry i forgot, if you ever need to talk e mail me at

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[aka estie]

Hi Drisgirl,

I posted an answer in your thread in suggestions. But you might also be interested in the link to the samaritans. They have a 24-hour phone service. Also I am told that many women's aid places do too.

http://www.samaritans.org.uk/

[ELVIS68]

I would advise you to get away from your ar$e of a husband, dont let this get you down. stay away from him but stay in touch with your daughter and try and sort your differences out. Please dont have a sh!t xmas , stay on here, there will be plenty of people to chat to, I for one will have a sneaky hour on here xmas day, and will sneak back on at night.

[Drisgirl]

I have just had an hour with the Samaritans and I think I will just take myself away for a few days and let them get on with it.I just want peace.I cannot believe how cruel your nearest and dearest can be but you have all been so supportive.I will keep in touch - the tears are streaming as I type.

I'll get in touch with the E-mailers before they are removed.Cheers to you all.

[Gill 05]

Drisgirl, good luck with what ever you decide xxx

[orange-gnome]

I feel for you Dris I really do but I have to ask, why oh why is your daughter at 16 in such a dire situation? It seems crazy, she is the child and you are the one running away? Could you not take your daughter and go to a shelter together? Surely this is just going to be an even bigger uphill struggle for her, to be housed in such a bad place! Its hard enough just looking after your house and everything that comes with it at 16 let alone in an terrible area!!

Obviously your husband is an awful man but surely as a parent its your responsiblity to make sure she is safe and away from harm!
She is clearly difficult to handle but she is the child, you are the parent, she is your responsibility.
I am expecting some harsh comments for the previous but thats fine, everyone has their opinion remember guys!
Oh and BTW Drisgirl, no girl means what she says when they are 16 and especially when they say they hate their mothers! So take heart : )

[Drisgirl]

Orange-Gnome

I absolutely appreciate your comments,I found it difficult to explain precisely the problems encountered as you will appreciate.

I adore my daughter and always will.SHE alone has chosen to go down the route of drink drugs and assault.If I could change things do you not think I would .I nurturted her in my belly gave birth to her and brought her up.She is my life blood.Apart from putting a loaded pistol to her head I cannot change the path she has now chosen ( she is almost 17)..She is ecstatic I am devastated - what does that tell you?

[orange-gnome]

It tells me that she is a typical teenager, unhappy (yet happy about it), hormonal, unsure of her place in the world and needs someone to look out for her, to care for her. She already has one parent who has turned to drink and the other is wanting to run away or hold a gun to her head and she is about to be housed in an area which will only make her situation worse!

[Drisgirl]

Orange-Gnome

Her father has not had anything apart from financial input from the age of 2.He does drop in to see her sporadicadicaliy ( sorry cant spell that) and she sits in his jeep for 10 mins a month and gets slipped a tenner.

Orange - I would NEVER defend her stepfather against my 2 but he has the most difficult job in the world.

He works away abroad - he is an ar$e but my 2 actually get on fine with him - well as is natural.

My girl has been DETERMINED she wanted her independance you think for a moment that mum wont have the spies out and be hiding behind the bushes herself?

Until she left the last time we always cuddled and told each other we loved each other - she just so wanted a house and mum was a good whipping girl.

[orange-gnome]

Dris- I don't know what you want me to say!!
I gave my opinion, asked some un asked questions and was asked a question to which I replied and am now getting these replies from you with over emphasised type, directed specifically to me!
I obviously didn't get that there are step-parents involved here...how was I to know?
I get that you are defending yourself...thats fine, I am not saying that you are to blame or are a bad mother. I am just saying that someone needs to be there for her and how will it help if you run away...thats all!!
Sorry if I sympathised too much for your daughters situation.

[Drisgirl]

I am just about on the point of collapse with stress.

C'mon tell me whwre I can just jump into the Vectra Sport and have a good time without infringing on anyone over Xmas.I would love to meet up with my fellow EBayers -nothing sordid - just laugh!!Who is game to take a saddo on.Here a couple of gins and I've got the gin specs on!! Dont worry I still have my sense of humour.

I'm still taking off tho - money for lush hotel- for me - no object!!

Suggetions - pronto!!!

[mally-baghoo]

That....says it all !!!

[ICEMANSAV]

As we look into the orb of our life, the reflection never lies. As we look out of the orb, the image is never clear.

[Drisgirl]

I am glad for everyone who helped me through a very lonely night.

Its like the Hothouse Flowers song 'It'll be easier in the morning'.Not so much easier but clearer.

Orange gnome - I am sorry-I wasnt having a go just trying to explain there was more to it and of course you werent to know.I dont have that facility to make words bold or in italics so I generally just put in capitals - I realise this is rude now but I wasnt meaning to shout at you.Thanks for your concern.

mally baghoo - I still dont get your point.If you thought I had my gin goggles on last night you couldnt be further from the truth.I was and still am devastated - it was just my futile attempt at lifting myself.If thats not what you meant - I'm sorry for being presumptious.

I will get there - just a hiatus in my life - we all get them.Mine was last night.Thanks everyone.